- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Okay I will try and make this short and sweet
Background: My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and asked if she could plan the bachelorette party. I didn’t really want one but said sure if that’ll make you happy. She tried to plan a weekend in DC touring because “its her vacation time and I don’t want to use it on stuff I don’t want to do” I hate large cities and wanted a more low key and cheaper vibe my friends could comfortably afford. Sister says DC or no dice. My friend J is astonished at sisters behavior and takes over planning as sister says she no longer wants to plan or come (again, fine by me)
Current time: J is amazing. She emailed everyone budget breakdowns and stuck to every girls $ for the festivities (which I know nothing about because she wants it to be a 100% surprise). I had lunch with J today and she tells me she is really heartbroken because out of the other 4 bms (my sisters not included) and the two non bp friends I asked to be invited ONLY the non bp friends will email her back. These are women with jobs and other responsibilities that surely they check their email?! She said she sent four messages over the last two months and no one will answer. (She is planning it for January but I live 8 hours from the rest of them so she wants to solidify plans so I can plan a trip up to them) Last night the other Maid/Matron of Honor emailed back saying she wasnt coming. I am shocked because I knew this a month ago and assumed she would have let J know since I wasn’t supposed to even know any details. I casually asked each girl if they liked Js plans/budget/wanted to come and they all said OH YES SHES GREAT AND I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT GOING!
So should I ask them politely to please try and keep on top of responding to J and that she is really excited but needs feedback? I don’t want to make it seem like I care/am forcing them to come (again, didnt even care if I had one) but J is working so hard and I feel so bad shes so frustrated at the lack of responses. Or should I do/say nothing. Or should I give J their phone #s to try and reach them that way? I really don’t want to step on toes but I feel so bad for J!