Post # 1
I’ve been going back and forth about when Fiance and I should get married. We’ve been planning to have it in May 2013, but we’re in an LDR. We live about an hour and a half from each other, and probably wouldn’t live together until maybe 2014. The plan was to get married in May 2013, go on a minimoon right after the wedding, maybe the following April go on an extended honeymoon to Australia and New Zealand, and then both of us relocate to a new city sometime after that.
However, living apart for at least a year after we’re married is not ideal. And I really do want to travel to Australia and New Zealand, but I have a conference for work that takes place Memorial Day weekend of every year. It would be great to save up more money for that extravagent honeymoon as well (we’re ok financially for the wedding we want.)
Has anyone lived apart from Fiance after being married? How did you handle it? Any advice would be great! We’re also partial to May because of the weather : )
Post # 3
Would any other part of your wedding help to dictate the date? I ask because I just popped over after reading about 2013 girls having a hard time booking vendors of their choice. Maybe your dream wedding wouldn’t even be possible in 2013? Just a thought, albeit more to think about as you make a tough decision.
For me personally, I wouldn’t want to wait any longer than I have to to get married!
Post # 4
I don’t have any good advice since I’m going through something similar.
My Fiance and I are 1.5 hours apart as well. We decided to go ahead with the wedding for Sept. 2012; the wedding will be where I am. // We might be apart a few months after the wedding but we gave ourselves a deadline. If he can’t find a job closer to me (or I can’t find a job closer to him), I will just move to him without a job and go back to school full-time.
Post # 5
@primcess: Thanks for the advice! Yes, I’m ready to be married too.
@mnp: I work in higher ed, so it makes more sense for me to stay in my job no matter what, and maybe find a new job at a different university as they’ll pay at least some of any higher degree I would want. They would likely also help pay for some of FI’s.
LDRs can suck!
Post # 6
@Pearberry: Ah, ok! That does make the situation a bit tougher. My Fiance and I have pretty obscure career paths; the Fiance is a nuclear engineer and I’m in legal data/records management. It is very clear that the FI’s career will take precedent. Which, I guess, makes things a bit easier for us. // LDRs do suck! Good luck!