Post # 1
Help! Our absolute top choice venue only has one Saturday available through the next two years…and it’s his not so serious ex’s birthday. They’re offering it to us as a discount (on an already great price) because it’s in the late spring. I feel weird about it being her birthday, though. should we move it to a Friday/Sunday or will that make it even MORE weird (have not sent invites or save the dates yet)? She is a mutual friend (and is friends with many of our friends) and will be invited. If we move it, is Friday or Sunday better? Help!!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I’d have it on Saturday. Who cares if it’s her birthday? It’s really NBD.
Post # 3
Every day is someone’s birthday. Don’t let an ex’s (that wasn’t even that serious) birthday dictate when your wedding is. Have your wedding when you want.
My wedding is on my mom’s birthday. She’s pretty excited to have multiple things to celebrate that day! 🙂
Post # 4
Who cares if it’s her birthday? It would be better to stop caring about his ex completely. Enjoy your wedding day!
Post # 5
You’re overthinking this. I would not sacrifice a Saturday wedding for an ex’s birthday. I don’t think it matters. Chances are, whatever day you pick will be significant to someone.
Our wedding falls on the anniversary of a couple we invited. They’re attending so we are making it fun by having a special slice of cake on a decorated plate brought out for them.
Post # 6
Don’t worry about birthdays! Have your wedding on the date you want. She will have great birthday plans that day 🙂
Post # 7
Why are you worried about a “not so serious” ex’s birthday? Have your wedding when you want to have your wedding.
Post # 8
I agree that everyday is someone’s birthday. Take the Saturday for the benefit of every other guest on your list.
Post # 9
I don’t even know my DH’s exes birthday, I don’t even remember most of my own exe’s birthdays…why is it such a big deal? You shouldnt be thinking so much about his ex
Post # 10
I’d say it’s no big deal, but if it’s really going to bother you, have it on the Friday.
Post # 11
If you’re worried about people not being able to attend the ex’s birthday party, they can have it on friday. I don’t think anyone will miss your ONE wedding for an event that happens for someone else yearly. If the ex is going to be a guest, my friend had his wedding on my birthday and it was great. Free booze!
Post # 12
Who cares? Every Saturday is sure to land on someone’s birthday. You aren’t celebrating her and shes an ex- her birthday should not even be factored into any plans you two make. I say have the wedding on Saturday.
Post # 13
The date will quickly lose its association and become your anniversary.
Post # 14
What exactly are you worried about? Is it associating your wedding anniversary with the ex? (don’t know why her birthday would even be significant to you as a couple and should surely not taint your wedding day). Or are you worried she’d be offended? She wouldn’t come? That others in the group wouldn’t come? Because that’s highly unlikely.
Post # 15
It’s one thing if it was a serious ex and the bride/groom whose ex it was feels very uncomfortable with the idea (a friend of mine rescheduled her wedding for that reason!) but in your case I’d say stick with Saturday! It sounds like a non-serious relationship that ended amicably, so don’t compromise your wedding vision for such an inconsequential reason!