(Closed) Get married on an ex's birthday, or a Friday/Sunday?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Ex's birthday or Friday/Sunday?

    Ex's birthday on Saturday



  • Post # 31
    2729 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Don’t ask her. You can’t plan your entire wedding around everyone else. If you really want that venue… really want a Saturday wedding.. and this is your only option. What will asking her first do for you? I know you’re hoping she’ll say “It’s totally fine!” so you can put your mind at ease. But what if she says “I’d rather you pick another date”. Then you’ll give yourself more anxiety over it.

    There’s no reason to care. I know you say she’s a friend and their relationship wasn’t serious but I think there’s more going on with you and your inner feelings towards her if this date is so weird to you.

    Post # 32
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’d do it on her birthday.  There are only so many days during the year to get married.  Since she will still be invited it sounds like terms are good, so I say go for it.

    Post # 33
    204 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m getting married on my best friend/matron of honor’s 30th birthday. I didn’t have to consult with her, and even if I did I wouldn’t expect her to make me move my wedding day. I’m doing a small cake the day of to celebrate her day also cause, duh, she’s my bestie. But this is an ex, regardless if she’s a mutual friend I don’t see the reason to even think about it. Just book your day and keep it moving, this is only the start of the various things you’ll need to worry about! Happy planning!

    Post # 34
    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    You even said that your FH didn’t even realise it was his ex’s birthday. I think that’s your answer. 🙂 

    Post # 35
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    If its a not so serious Ex why is this even a question ? you cannot and shouldn’t live your life differently because of an Ex! 

    Post # 37
    747 posts
    Busy bee

    Is this honest to God one of your real life problems?

    Post # 39
    13 posts

    Go with that Saturday. It will be a special day for the two of you no matter what. Don’t worry about things that are not important.

    Post # 40
    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Beautiful place.

    I’d do it anyways.. It’s no longer her birthday but your wedding day! xx

    Post # 41
    6013 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State


    oneanddone:  here’s my suggestion for reminding yourself why this isn’t weird because I see you have already decided to take the date (yay!)

    If she’s an ok enough ex in your book to be invited to the wedding, you must consider her more of a friend than an ex of your FI’s. Know what I mean? she just so happens to have briefly and not so seriously dated your Fiance, clearly everyone is over that since you two are getting married and she is being invited and is still a part of your lives. I feel like if anything, if she’s an ex you would be more concerned with inviting her, but you’re not and are even considerate enough of her to consider speaking with her about your date (glad you didn’t though!).  Try and focus on the bigger picture, that you’ll be getting married that day!! yay!

    Post # 43
    4943 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Who cares if it’s the ex’s birthday? Just do it on the day you want.

    Post # 44
    606 posts
    Busy bee

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    oneanddone:  yeah….I would pick another date. I wouldn’t want my SO thinking of an ex and contacting her on a day about us. 

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