Get married sooner or wait an extra 6 months? (Poll)

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Get married:
    April 20th 2019, our first choice : (29 votes)
    74 %
    Early October 2019, more convenient for family : (10 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 2
    4608 posts
    Honey bee

    Are you sure April 20th is spring break because that seems awfully late for spring break? Spring break usually occurs around the midpoint of a semester (mid-March to early April at the very latest) and around the first day of spring (March 20th).  It usually doesn’t coincide purposefully with Easter since that is a date that fluctuates.  April 20th is closer to being almost completely done for most colleges (ending around the first or second week of May) and most other schools end the first week of June.

    Have you actually checked school calendars?  And does this mean your wedding is being held in a typical spring break location?  Because not all flight prices are going to be higher.

    Post # 3
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Is $100 a lot for his family? For some people it isn’t, for others it would make a difference. Would accommodation also be more expensive? On the other hand, maybe his family would find it easier to get time  off work if there are already easter bank holidays?

    Post # 4
    1853 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Keep in mind that if you get married in October instead of nine months from now you’ll have a better choice of vendors depending on where you are.

    My photographer was booking a year out when we booked her, which I thought was insane but it was the same thing for most of our vendors.

    Post # 6
    4608 posts
    Honey bee

    So if you don’t know if it is a problem…ask them if the date and those flight prices will be an issue.  If these are people you consider VIPs must have at your wedding, then you need to just ask them – not make assumptions and ask strangers.

    If they aren’t VIPs and you are indifferent about whether or not they attend, then pick any date you like.

    Post # 7
    3712 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I would personally choose the October date. You mentioned being in a southern state. With April showers being so prevalent, I would be hesitant to choose an outdoor venue unless it had an equally appealing indoor backup plan. Also, I would definitely want to respect familys’ spending needs. If it meant that more loved ones could attend then I would pick that date.

    Post # 8
    33 posts
    • Wedding: September 2018

    If you want to get married in April, get married in April! Nine months is plenty of time to plan, and if it means getting the wedding that you want, go for it. 

    I’m getting married next month with what will have been a nine month engagement. I think that was a perfect amount of time, because I’m also one to obsess a bit over planning. It was either September of this year or next spring. 

    We do have some guests who can’t make it because their kids are in school, but I don’t think you can ever please everyone. 

    Post # 10
    12316 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    beeleez :  I think this is something you are just going to have to decide on your own. What I would never do is impose on prospective guests to ask if the cost of flights would influence their attendance. That is their business. It would be wrong and embarrassing to put that kind of pressure on people. 

    At most your fiance’s parents will likely have a sense of what is and is not reasonable. But if having all or as many of his family as possible is important to him, then I would personally opt for the October date. 

    Post # 11
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I voted to go with your first-choice date, even though I don’t think a holiday weekend is ideal.

    Since your main concern is the flight costs, my theory is this: people who are so price-sensitive that they would decline a family wedding invitation for a $100 price difference aren’t going to be flying anyway; they’ll travel by car, even if it is 9 hours. Driving is just so much more economical, especially when there are a bunch of people coming from the same area.

    ETA: You should always check the date with your VIPs regardless.

    Post # 12
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2019


    We are getting married the weekend after Easter next year, so the 27th in Aus! Do they jack up prices for the Easter weekend where you were? We wanted an April date but definitely ruled the 20th out because of that. Are your guests religious and have commitments, too? 
    Because of all the public holidays we thought the weekend after was a fabulous idea, and it seems to be well received (just sent out save the dates). Could you consider the 27th? 🙂 

    Post # 13
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    9 months is also plenty of time. But I would get a wriggle on and lock down your vendors ASAP


    Post # 14
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I’m getting married next year in April and I think Easter is that weekend. Also being in CA 4/20 = marijuana holiday and I did not want to deal with a bunch of my guest being high. If you don’t mind being a little rushed and it doesn’t interfere with religious holidays Passover / Easter. Go for it. Otherwise you may want to look for a different venue or pick the later date. 

    Post # 15
    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

    Other than the flight issue, do you mind sharing your anniversary with Easter? Would that be an issue, or does Easter date change every year? (Forgive me, I’m not too familiar with Christian traditions). Just something to think about.

    Also, a note about flights – I assume you’ll send out Save The Dates ahead of time. 6 months should be plenty of time for people that really care about cost to get their flights booked early to snag good deals! And some people may really appreciate spring break time because it’s hard to pull kids out of school towards the end of the year, even for a weekend. Same applies for anyone working in education, banking, or government. 

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