(Closed) Get MIL a christmas gift or not?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
4346 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would give one gift, signed by you, your DH and DH’s daughter.

Post # 4
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ouch that is a sticky situation.

Last Christmas, we were very tight on cash, so in lieu of a gift for my then-BF’s mom & dad I just brought over a potted stephanotis plant & some cookies.

I didn’t expect to get anything from her as she had pretty well expressed that she didn’t like me at that point.

I ended up getting gifts from her, DH’s dad, and all his sisters. I felt like crap. This year I’m getting everyone a gift.

We have a much better relationship now so I would have gotten her a gift anyway, but I think that even if she had continued to hate me after the wedding, I would still get her a gift. That way I would just feel like I’ve made the effort and therefore can’t be blamed for how she feels. Then if anything, she’d look bad, not me.

That’s what I think I would do in your situation. Take the high road and get her something (not neccessarily anything big or expensive) just to show that you’re making the effort, even if she isn’t.

Post # 5
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

One gift signed by both of you, small token from the granddaughter. (not sure how old she is, but maybe a lovely macaroni necklace or painting of the family or some such) I wouldn’t give her any way to say anything bad about me…. be the bigger person and shove it in her face. But subtly. Subtle shove. Ugh, good luck with that, that sounds awful!

Post # 6
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For adult relatives we do one gift, signed with the whole families name.  The only exception would be something like a mug that says “worlds best grandma” or something similar- that I would wrap as just from our LO.  I’d just give her one gift from your family and call it a day. 

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