(Closed) Get to become a SAHW!

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

That is so exciting! I’m still hoping to be a Stay-At-Home Mom in the next few years. Fiance still doesn’t make enough to eliminate my paycheck completely, so here is to hoping!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It sounds like you are so happy, good for you! I don’t SAH but I would think that making sure you get time to interact with others will be really important so you don’t feel like you are isolated. If you are helping Grandma, that definitely will get you out and about, but maybe if your projects are computer based finding a good spot (or spots) to work on them outside could be good. I’m thinking coffee shops and library.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Good for you if that’s what you want!  I always thought how great it would be, and then I experienced it for a few months – I quit my job in January and didn’t get another one until June.  In some ways it was great – I got all the errands done, made all the meals, tried to make it so my H didn’t have to do anything house-related.  He loved that aspect of it.

But the bad thing is that I’m really lazy 🙂  I really just wanted to sleep in and binge on Netflix.  I also couldn’t get past the feeling that I could never spend money because I wasn’t earning any (even though H NEVER made me feel that way).  I worried about retirement and savings as well.  

I am SO thrilled to be working again, and able to save for things we want to do like vacations.  It was interesting to be a Stay-At-Home Wife for a while because now I know what it’s like, but I don’t really want to do it again.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Olgarie:  

Congrats! I imagine it’s a liberating feeling. I hope to join you about a year from now. In the meantime I am down to 32 hours a week now, sometimes less. At my age I kinda consider my leaving the work force an early (very early) retirement vs the Stay-At-Home Wife label though I would indeed stay at home and be a wife. I am also looking to keep a line on consulting projects after leaving the office structure. That would make leaving less scary. It’s such a huge change from all I’ve ever known (for the last 20 years/over half my life!) that I think it will calm my nerves, plus keep me connected & give a little extra play money.

Having a pillar of support within the family, someone tending to aging parents & such is a tremendous value to a family. I hope you enjoy this new phase in life and the benefits are wide spread within your circle of loved ones.  Good Luck 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would try to schedule in some volunteer work so you keep meeting new people. You said you have very few friends. Isolating yourself at home, it will be even harder to make friends.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Olgarie:  Have you considered doing some volunteer work? It could just be a few hours a week but it would get you out of the house, have you interact with some people (maybe even women just like you that you can be friends with). And you get to give back to your community! Sounds like a win-win to me.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Do volunteer work, take a craft class, learn how to tile your backsplash, there are a lot of ways to learn new things and meet new people. Congrats and enjoy. (I would plant a beautiful flower bed if I had time!!) 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Olgarie:  congrats! I hope to be doing that too in a few years, when Fiance is done with college (so close) and starts making the real bucks. (he has a secure job in his families company.) The house was SO much cleaner when i was off work for awhile after my mom passed away, home cooked meals and all.. right now with us both working 8-5 and doing wedding stuff every night, its a circus at our house.. enjoy it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Olgarie:  I’m a teacher so essentially I am a Stay-At-Home Wife during the summer. (We are not married yet but living together) I also tutor 7 hours a week which keeps me busy. However, I am a little bored even with wedding planning to do. I’m very happy for you and obviously you may have more things going on than me to keep you busy. For me, I like when school starts so I can get back in my groove. 

Ultimately, do what makes you happy as a couple but I just wanted to give you my perspective. Best of luck, bee! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I wanna say I’m jealous, but damn…you’re still gonna be working!

 

But it’s very awesome of you to help out with your grandmother in law.

 

I second some volunteer work.  I’m actually fostering a baby bottle kitten….and how much easier it would be to do if I could stay home!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Olgarie:  Congratulations! I work part-time from home and I love it (about 4 hours a day, which brings in around $20k a year so not too bad). I quit my stressful office job a little over a year ago. My advice is give yourself time to adjust. When I first started staying home I had crazy expectations for myself (planning out every hour of every day, baking bread, basically driving myself insane). I’d get super pissed at myself if I let something slip up, but it’s just like anything it takes a little time to figure out what works for you. My husband and I are much happier with me staying home. I love that he comes home to a homemade dinner, a clean apartment, and a happy wife 🙂  

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