(Closed) Get to know UNDER 21s

posted 11 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 184
5 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Joeydoodle:  Hi! I’ll try to talk about most of everything that everyone else brought up.

We’re not engaged yet, officially. We’ve known for a while that we’re going to get married. We met in July of 2011, when I was 17 and he was 21. We are now 19 and 23. My date isn’t set, I just put it there as an estimate, but it’s a few years down the road.

We’ll get married in KY and my side of the family will travel to the wedding. We’ll have a southern, country western mixed wedding. After all, he’s from the south, and I LOVE the south, but we’re both a little more western. Oh, and neither one of us likes Kansas. The ceremony will be at his family’s church, and the reception will be on a relative’s property in a barn.

I was deathly ill for almost 3 years of highschool, so right now I’m working on finishing up highschool online, and looking at colleges, trying to decide between teaching 1st grade or becoming an Anesthesiologist. So right now, getting engaged and married is my motivation for finishing school. Either career choice I choose, I will have to travel to town.

He is a cowboy. A traveler… no, more like a gypsy soul. He’s your typical southern gentleman. He has a couple ranches he wants to work on and places he wants to see before kids come along. He’s been trying to find where he wants to be since I met him. We think that The Great Basin(which contains parts of CA, OR, ID, UT, and NV) is where we want to be(finally!). He’s originally from KY. I’m from KS, where we met. When we get married, I’ll move to NV where his job is, which he loves almost as much as he loves me. (and no his job is no where near Vegas)

Both of us love animals. Almost all animals(except Rattlesnakes. He kills those for me, haha). We’re both dog people. I have a Corgie/Jack Russell/Pekingese mix named Cooper. He has a pure bred Catahoula named JD. Cooper and JD haven’t met yet. JD is still in KY and Cooper is in Kansas. Even though we had them before we met, I’m JD’s momma, and my SO is Cooper’s daddy. They are our babies, they love us both, and we spoil them to death. 

Right now we’re Long Distance. And with his job, you don’t get to charge your cell phone. You wouldn’t have cell service even if you could. We have to write letters. It’s quite old fashioned. It’s hard sometimes. But I love having hand written letters to read over and over. We face a lot of challenges, but we face them together. We have our disagreements, but we don’t like going to bed angry. We try to leave room for God in our relationship, and try to remember to treat each other with the utmost respect.

Both of us have things we need to do before we take the big step of getting married. We both love traveling. We love an adventure. We love seeing new things, learning new things, and meeting amazing new people. That’s our favorite part of traveling, is the great people you come across and the stories they can tell. The places we go just add to this journey that we’re taking together.

In The Great Basin, it’s not easy work. These ranchers won’t normally tolerate team ropers, bronc riders, bull riders, or feedlot cowboys. And most of them don’t like Texans either, for complicated reasons, which I now understand, actually. That’s why I don’t reveal to these people that I was born in TX, hehe. Most people wouldn’t last in the Basin. Out there, you ride huge horses that try to kill you. You don’t just ride them, though. You ride them while going up the side of a mountain or while trying to rope a calf. Fun to watch.

We will have a very simple, old fashioned, lifestyle. We don’t like the city. In fact, some of these ranches are 4 hours from the nearest decent size town. True cowboys are a dying breed. Most people don’t know they exist anymore. You know those old western movies where each cowboy leaves their family at home, gets a string of horses, follow the cattle, sleep on the cold, hard ground for months at a time, and they have a camp cook with a wagon? It’s still pretty much the same. The honest, hardworking, lifestyle we have chosen is amazing. We don’t make much money, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

Most people don’t understand how I put up with him being gone for long periods of time, and he will be, even after we’re married. The time we get to spend together though, is even sweeter. Besides, you can’t control who you fall in love with. <3 We were talking about getting me a pair of spurs or a saddle instead of an engagement ring. Then we talked about geting me a concho ring instead of a diamond. A couple we know bought horses instead of a ring.

As for the people talking about babies, we do want children other than our fur-children(dogs), but we want to wait a couple years after getting married before starting a family. He wants 2 boys. (Little cowboys will give their mother a heart attack before I’m 35 if they’re anything like their father.) And I want 1 boy and of course 1 girl just so I can buy all the cute clothes. But I would be fine with any gender as long as they’re healthy.

As you can tell, we’re not the typical couple… Most of you will think my entire post is crazy, but this is who we are.  Smile

Lovely reading about all of you, and good to know I’m not the only younger one on The Bee!  (=

Post # 185
11 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hey!! I’m 20….getting married next november. So excited! finishing university in august(cant wait its been such a long haul!) and i cant wait to have baaabies!!! My parents would absolutely flip out if they knew that they only just about got their heads around me getting engaged/married. Living in England, i know most of you are american  but hopefully someone else is in the same boat who can get excited with me!!! Literally, no one else I know is getting married at 20/21 πŸ™


Post # 186
1 posts

I’m also 19 but will be 20 here shortly. My SO is 21. We plan on getting married after he graduates from college and thus have postponed both engagement and wedding for a later time. I’m not technically engaged but after 8 months of dating we were comfortable enough with each other to discuss the future ahead. (I mean why date someone for longer than that amount of time if your intentions are marriage and a long life together??) We have been together 3 years and some various months, weeks, and days. The past few years we have weighed our options about getting married while he was still in college, but, while it works for some couples, it wasn’t a smart option for us. So we’ve waited! But it’s getting down to that time. He wants to be engaged during his last year of college and that’s coming up! We hope to get married at the end of August. We have a cat (Sid) and plan to settle into life in Pittsburgh, God willing. He’s been offered a job with a company and is interning in Pitts this summer, so we will cross our fingers and hope he can land a job at that particular location! We’ve looked at rings, he’s taunted me with the idea, and it’s pretty clear that it’ll happen here pretty shortly. And I’m so looking forward to it. Can’t wait to post about that!! Regardless, I still plan and pin to my hearts content. Getting to make concrete plans will be amazing, though!

Post # 187
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

Maybe I can ‘bump’ this thread a little but….


Hey!! I just turned 20 and my fiancé will be 24 at the end of December this year. The first time we started talking was in May of 2011 and we lost contact. We then met about 2 weeks into my first semester in college and started dating, and everything felt so different with him (in a good way!).  He decided about 6 months later that I was “the one” and proposed unofficially at our one year. After looking at rings and promising me one, he surprised me with my mom’s original engagment ring on my 20th birthday! My mom, fiancé and I were all talking about casually about getting engaged (she knew it was coming eventually) and she offered her ring to him then a few months laterrrr πŸ™‚ I am now engaged! I couldn’t be happier! He is an amazing guy and even only having a year and a half under our belt, we have been through thick and thin together. But we do plan on having a somewhat long engagement while I get through school and we save money πŸ™‚

Post # 188
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@nursingstudent14:  Date twins!!!!

I’ll be 21 in June, and FH is 27. I met him when I was interning at a newspaper on the East Coast (I’m originally from Kansas) and he was a full-time reporter there. When the summer ended, we knew we had to stay together. We’ve been together about a year, most of that LDR, and we know we’re perfect together. We’re getting engaged this summer, with a hopeful date of Oct. 18, 2014, when I am 22 and he is 29. I will be graduated from college by then.

As everyone is talking about, it can be hard to deal with the stigma. But I’m in a different place in my life and I know what I want. I’m ready to be with the love of my life!

Post # 189
774 posts
Busy bee

This is a fun thread! I’m 20 and SO is nearly 30. Not engaged but definitely talking about it and know we want to be together for a very long time. We have known each other for years and and I’m very much aware of our ages but, like many of you, feel closer to his age than to my own. He is a teacher, and I am studying to be one, we are very happy.

Btw, I like that this thread hasn’t been hijacked by anyone who harasses young brides. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 190
938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ll join!!! I am 20, my SO is 30 and we are not officially engaged (which drives me insane!! I mean he has the ring, he spoke to my dad, but its not official yet because he wants to make it a surprise (which is really cute I know but still saying he is my bf doesn’t convey at all what I feel for him!) We’ll be celebrating our 3yr dating anniversary on May 7th

We’re waiting to get married until I graduate from med school in Costa Rica. He is also a doctor but is currently working in the oil field in texas since he hasn’t done his boards to practice in the US yet. We are still undecided as to where we want to live, either the US or here. But currently in a LDR. 

I love to read, my favorite book is the Count of Monte Cristo but the SO is more of a movie geek lol Him and my dad are best friends, to the extent it gets annoying (ie ditching me when I have to study and going out just them two!) But I am happy they get along, considering I am an only child and the age difference it is a true blessing!

We met because I used to date one of his friends! Who ended up being a lying cheating asshole who would hit on me after my SO asked for permission to ask me out (while he was engaged to the mother of their adorable child that I did not know about I must add, a real piece of work)

I knew my SO was “the one” on our first date, I am so happy he was insistent on asking me out since I said no a couple of times because of the friend (found it odd at the moment) if not I don’t know what I would have done! He has helped me through so much, got me to stop smoking and doing drugs, brought me closer to God and he compliments me perfectly! People’s comments can go to hell if they had what we have they would understand that age doesnt matter!

Post # 191
15 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hi! I’m 17 and my fiance is 19 and he is a Marine and we will be getting married shortly after I turn 18 and graduate! I can not wait! I am new on here and can’t wait to get to know some of you!

Post # 192
41 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

i am 19 ( turning 20 in september ) and my Fiance is 23 ( turning 24 on may ) we started dating a week  after my 15th birthday , i got pregnant in 2010 and we are living together since feb. 2011 he proposed to me on my birthday last year πŸ™‚ and we are planing to get married on 2015 when i will be done with college πŸ™‚ 

Post # 193
46 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

Howdy howdy.

I’m currently 18, 19 in June and my Fiance just turned 23 in February.

We met when I was 14, dated for about a week when I was 15, but he felt uncomfortable because of the age thing (15 and 20, that’s a little sketchy). We’ve always to some extent come back to each other either as friends or something more. He moved away a couple times and now I’m far away.

We got engaged after 6 months of being together, but according to him he knew he was going to propose back in November (he ended up proposing in March when I was home for Spring Break).

Uhm… There isn’t a lot to say about me, I don’t really watch TV or do anything other than fart around on pintrest and weddingbee and do homework. Though I do loooove Psych and Say Yes To The Dress.

Post # 194
787 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Hey everyone!

I’m Ellen. I’m 20 and engaged to the best man I’ve ever known. He’s 19 but will be 20 in less than a month. We will both be 21 when we get married. We’ve been dating since we were 17 and 16 (I’m six months older) and have been together for 3 years. We live together during school breaks and the summer and are in a long distance relationship during the school year. We will be getting married in May 2014 when I move back to New Jersey for good!

He proposed in Disneyworld Magic Kingdom in front of Cinderella’s Castle during the fireworks. It was the best moment of my life and the best first trip to Disney ever!

I’m in college full time and work part time as a research assistant during the school year. During the summer I work at a family support organization as a childcare provider and as a respite care provider for a handicapped adult. My fiance is in college full time but will just be part time starting in the fall because his financial aid fell through. He works full time as a cook at a national chain and part time as a respite care provider.


Post # 195
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2022


nice to see some younger bees, girls πŸ™‚ I am 19 and the bf is 26 πŸ™‚


Post # 196
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I can’t believe I haven’t seen this thread yet, considering how addicted I am to the Bee!


I am 19, will be 20 in July, my real name is Stefanie (not Achene, lol- my username is my character’s name in Skyrim), DH is 30 and his name is James. We have been married for almost 5 months now, and it is actually pretty unbelieveable- it seems like yesterday I was waiting to be married! We met October 7th, 2011- and in just 5 months, he proposed on April 22nd, 2012. We got married 8 months later in December. Our wedding date is actually one day after my parents’ anniversary (December 29th), and the actual day of his parents’ anniversary (December 30th).

I am currently working full time, M-F 8:30 to 5 in a medical center, as well as going to college full time for a bachelors degree in English/technical writing. DH works full time as well, and is going back to college this fall to complete his degree!

We have two dogs (Copper & Ginger) and one cat (Sushi), and plan on TTC in 5-7 years, depending on how we feel!

I’ve always been told I have an ‘old soul’, which is part of the reason I was alright with marrying DH at such a young age. I fully believe (and support) the idea that maturity means so much more than your age (as long as both people are consenting adults).   πŸ™‚

Post # 197
19 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m fairly new to this and it’s nice reading about other under 21’s! I’m 20, my fiance is 24.. In about 3 weeks we’ll have been together for 2 years and we will be getting married in 8 months! We both love children (we want a big family) but want to have some time together before we take that step. We love the ourdoors. He works in the food industry and I work as a child care provider. I want a nice rustic style wedding with an outdoor ceremony.. I would love to have my reception in a huge barn but I haven’t found the place yet. My wedding will be mostly DIY with a small budget (I don’t understand paying too much for a one day thing) Most of all I want it to be non traditional, I don’t want to do things just because that’s how people normally do things. 

Post # 198
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’ll be turning 19 next week. Eek! and my boyfriend is 22. We are in a long distance relationship (about 9000) miles apart and we’re dating for almost a year now.

In about 16 days I am bound to see him, and within a month or so, he’ll propose. The waiting is killing me, I just wanna be with him. I am a senior college student (at 19, yes, I’m Asian. LOL) and hopefully, we’ll be able to close the distance once I graduate on 2014.

A lot of people never get engaged where I live (they just sort of decide to get married without a proposal or anything), but I’m lucky because my man is Southern! I know a lot of people will judge me for getting engaged so “early” and I am aware that I have to reiterate the fact that I AM NOT PREGNANT.

Currently waiting for my ring to be delivered to my bf, i hope it gets there before his flight going here!

Oh, and it’s gonna be a long engagement, maybe 1-3 years before we get married. πŸ™‚ 

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