(Closed) Get Together with His Family this weekend…Need ADVICE!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s perfectly reasonable to skip dinner and join them at the sporting event.  This was Fiance gets to spend some alone time with his family too.  It’s all about balance, and I’m sure they’ll understand that you’d like to spend some time with your own family over the holiday season too!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that’s a good compromise!

Why will it cause a fight? You have every right to want to spend time with your family. And you aren’t ditching his – just meeting up later.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@MissNoodles:  +1

You need to sit down with your fiance and talk about when and how much you’re going to spend time with his family and your family.

My fiance and I recently did that same thing.  My mom is alone.  She’s very lonely and wants to see me every time I’m in the area.  We always go to my fiance’s family’s house for every holiday.  We invite my mother there too.  Recently, my future mother-in-law has been really annoyed that we’ve been including my mother so much.  She wants to spend time with just us.  We told her if she can’t share us for the entire holiday, then we’re going to have to split our time between both families.  So, she’ll end up seeing us less than if she just shared.  For example, shared 4 days.  Or 2 days with my mom and 2 days with his parents.

You need to come to an agreement with this about your fiance.  This isn’t going to be the only time that this topic comes up.  You need a long-term solution, not just a solution for this one weekend.

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