Post # 1
Here’s what I have so far:
Framed wedding picture (he couldn’t attend)
Might also try to get him some rock albums. We got him a Queen cd last year that he really liked. Other than that, my husband and I honestly don’t know too much about him except that he likes chess and old rock. And I’ve never been too close to anyone with cancer before, so I really don’t know what they need and am just going off of stuff that I found to be on cancer gift things.
Post # 3
@tmsing: That sounds great so far! Thinking lots of healing thoughts to your FIL!
Post # 4
This is going to sound odd, but do you cook? My mom has always made lasagna or baked ziti or something easy to reheat, packaged it in single portion sizes and froze them. She dropped them off with reheating instructions, both microwave and oven. The caretaker (presumably your MIL) doesn’t often have the time or energy to cook a meal, so this takes some of the stress off.
Post # 5
@MariContrary: I should have provided more context. My father in law lives in a different state from us, so we would have to send his gift in the mail. And he and my Mother-In-Law are divorced. Essentially he is all by himself and he does not seem to want to move near us, even though my husband would feel better about Father-In-Law having more family around. He is very concerned for him because as far as we know he does not have a caretaker, but moving might be very difficult. At the same time he lives out of a motel and does not have many possessions at all.
I do know how to cook though and would have loved to do the meal thing for him. I’m honestly not even sure if Father-In-Law has a microwave or stove in his room, I’ll have to ask my husband if he remembers. Maybe we could send some Italian snacks as well (family is Italian) and he might like that.
Post # 6
I sent similar items as these to my mom living in another state. Any type of food that is easier for him to eat right now is also good (my mom is at the “treat food like medicine” stage because she doesn’t have an appetite but needs to get her weight up. Chocolate without any harder fillings is easier for her and has high calories.)
I also sent her some humorous books with cancer tips since laughing is always good medicine. If he is receiving chemo or radiation, it will make his skin quite sensitive, so specialty skin care for cancer patients (soap, lotion, etc.) could also be really helpful.
The last care package I sent was from the Pampered Patient, and they have a lot of great care package ideas on there, even if you don’t buy from them.
ETA: some of the books I sent were “Cancer Made Me a Shallower Person: A Memoir in Comics” and “Crazy, Sexy Cancer Tips.” Lindi is the name of the skin care line I’ve sent that’s good for radiation and chemo patients (my mom had had both).
I also sent a flash drive with a book on tape (Tina Fey’s Bossy Pants) and music to listen to during chemo. You can wear headphones during chemo and the nurses will generally let you play your iPod over speakers they have during radiation, depending on the hospital. I put a book to help my dad cope in the care package as well…don’t forget about your Mother-In-Law if your Father-In-Law is married! She will be struggling, too.
Post # 7
That has to be so hard for him. If you can find out his favorite non-perishable snacks, that might be nice to send. From my experiences with family members with cancer, they lose weight because of nausea, and also because they sometimes just don’t have the energy to get up and bother to eat. Which drains their energy more, and it’s a nasty cycle. So easy snacks might be a good option. I think the music is a great idea too! And books if he likes reading.
Post # 8
@anemonie: I was wondering why cancer gift baskets sold online included lotion >.< I knew there had to be a reason for it. Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law are divorced and their relationship is on/off and often very strained.