Post # 1
Hi! I’m new! So about a week ago, my boyfriend and I decided to get married this summer. We have been through a lot together, and were planning to get married next summer when we realized that we would qualify for more financial aid if we were married this year, and that would make it possible for both of us to continue to go to school. We’ve known eachother for almost 4 years (we’re one of those ‘I realized I was in love with my best friend’ couples), and have been dating for a year and a half. We’re not ‘officially’ engaged yet, we will be in about a month. He still wants to surprise me with it. 😛 Our wedding will be pretty small, just close friends and family. My questions: Do I still send out invitations? Can we have an engagement party/bridal shower? What preplanning is okay before we’re officially engaged? Obviously we’ll have next to no time, so I’d like to get as much done as possible before it’s go time.
Post # 3
@Birdlady: Especially with a simple wedding you can definitely get things planned in that kind of time.
-I would probably still send out invites unless it’s only going to be like immeate family. You can do simple/cheap ones, no big deal. I got mine on Vistaprint with a groupon, so cheap, fast shipping, and they looked great!
-You can still have the usual partis 🙂
-Preplan anything you want! I would probably choose to wait until an official engagement to sign any contracts, but imo everything else if fair game, have fun!
Post # 4
It may be difficult doing the parties (bridal shower, engagement, etc.) in just a few months.
I managed to organise our wedding for 150 people in six months easily, so three months would most likely be okay for a smaller wedding – the main issue would be finding vendors, celebrant, venue and dress on short notice. If you can sort those out, then you’ll be all set!
Post # 5
I talked with him and went ahead and booked my church for the ceremony and reception (free, SCORE!) We’re going to do a lot of diy. I’m underemployed at the moment (25 hours a week) and my boyfriend gets out of school in two weeks. Getting my dress next week. We just ordered our rings. We’re going to do a picnic reception – sandwiches, fruit, veggies, potato salad, chips and salsa with lawn games and board games at every table (or sheet). My mom wants to invite more people, but it should still be okay. I’m feeling pretty good about it. I asked all my girls except for his sister to be bridesmaids, because he hasn’t told them yet. I kinda wish his mom could come with us dress shopping, but I have to make sure I have something to wear, and I don’t want it to be a month before and not have anything yet. I do kind of feel like I jumped off a cliff onto a roller coaster though. 😛