Getting a Puppy- I really want one, but my partner is on the fence

posted 2 months ago in Pets
Post # 31
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Busy bee

You’re an adult. If you want a dog get a dog. It’s your dog. Your life. Your choice. Your responsibility.

If he doesn’t want a dog, then maybe get your own apartment. And then get yourself a dog.

Don’t not do things you want in life because it doesn’t mesh with a man you’re dating.

Change the man, not your wants.

Post # 32
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Helper bee

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@coffeeeee:  But they aren’t just dating – they are living together, which implies some degree of seriousness and longevity. 

Is your advice to ‘throw the whole man away’ true for all minor disagreements? 

Post # 33
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Busy bee

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@coffeeeee:  If a puppy is the hill to die on for her, then I’d agree. But otherwise, relationships are not about my way or the highway. 

 

OP, we got two cats during TTC and got pregnant half a year after that. I was put on bed rest at 9/10 weeks for 4 weeks (and counting), and there is no way I could care for our pets without my husbands support. Our older cats are not that demanding, but I can’t play with them, scoop their poo and take it out 3 times a day,  feed them and clean up all the hair – and this is not even post partum stage. I think a joint decision for a pet is important.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

I think it’s important to remember that he’s not saying “no dogs. not ever” but “no dogs now, not until our living situation is different.”  

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
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@coffeeeee:  LOL more crap advice. A want for a pet is not a desperate must have in life for most people and one wouldn’t end a relationship or break a lease and get a new place to choose a dog over a person who is saying “no dogs right now”. Kids… yeah deal breaker… but a dog? 

Post # 37
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Busy bee

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@jcud4:  no but she said having her own dog has been a lifelong goal and she’s ‘obsessed’ with it. And it’s a big enough want that she made a post about it.

The boyfriends only lived with her what, 4 months?

Alls I’m saying is if you know you want something for yourself, don’t give it up for someone else’s wants.

Post # 38
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Busy bee

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@midwestmiss:  happy you two came to an agreement!

Post # 39
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Helper bee

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@coffeeeee:  Right…but when my lifelong goals have a huge impact on my partner, whom I share a life and home with, it isn’t just about what I want at that point. 

Anyway, looks like they’ve sorted this out amongst themselves, so all the best to them!

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