Post # 47
@missamysmiles: the way I see it – the ring doesn’t make the engagement just like the wedding doesn’t make a marriage.
That doesn’t mean the ring, proposal and wedding aren’t important, or shouldn’t make our hearts sing, but I think we all know what is truely important.
Post # 48
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@missamysmiles: I’m exactly like you. I told my SO what I wanted, and then he picked the most gorgeous ring in the entire world all by himself! I honestly don’t think I could have picked a better one if I had been more involved. And I will never exchange or “upgrade” it because the ring itself has so much sentimental value to me. This is the ring he used to propose. My wedding ring is the ring we used to say our vows. That’s the stuff that matters the most to me. When my DH proposed, I was crying so hard that I couldn’t even SEE the ring for a few minutes! It was just one big sparkly blur! 🙂
Post # 49
I pinned a few rings to my pinterest for helping with general styles I like, thinking my bestie or my sister could use the information to guide him when the time came… And instead his secretary found my board. Nooooooooo!
At least he knows what I like. I’ve got an eclectic style, and he’s done a wonderful job of the last 3 pieces of jewelry he’s bought. I love them all.
Post # 50
That’s what we did! He picked out a really nice guitar. It was fun deciding on a present for him, together.
Post # 51
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
thank you! I’m glad someone understands where I was going with this…
I’m not saying involvement is the issue – I’m saying it’s the people that completely separate the ring from what it means. If you weren’t on a Wedding Bee forum, you would think they are referring to it as their purchase of a random piece of jewelry. If a couple buys engagement rings together, before, after – whatever works for them.
interesting perspective on technology!
I stated in a PP my revelations about the ring board!
If you look at my PP, I did state that I probably didn’t explain my issue with it very well. My issue is that the first time people post their ring as though it was something they bought and ‘should i get this one instead?’ ‘should I return it for this one?’ without any mention of their Fiance. I really didn’t mean to offend anyone that has been part of selecting their ring and that loves their ring. Hell, I’ll post mine when I get it too and I will be proud of it! But you won’t see a board from me saying ‘Look at my ring that I picked out’ or ‘Do you think my ring is nice? I love it, but I might exchange it for this one instead’.
that’s amazing! I will definitely be a blubbery mess!
Post # 52
@missamysmiles: ‘Look at my ring that I picked out’ or ‘Do you think my ring is nice? I love it, but I might exchange it for this one instead’
Since you know that many Bees make posts like this, why pass judgment? Are you just trying to make us feel bad about ourselves? I got a new ring for my 5 year anniversary. I did pick it out myself. I’m sorry you don’t like that, but the fact that I wanted to like my ring and pick it out myself does not reflect poorly on my love for DH one bit. Hope this clears things up.
Post # 53
Seriously. Picking fights!