(Closed) Getting Addresses – why is it so hard?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yes– are they property owners? If so, their addresses are public record. Google their name and city and their address will pop up. It is stalkerish, but so much easier than calling and hounding people.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

THis is depressingly normal. we ended up calling/texting a bunch of people. And I still have one friend who was like, why do you need my mailing address? You know I’m coming. Argh!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

That was the case with my friends too! It is still worth a shot. The other thing that saved me was a mutual friend’s christmas card list/baby announcement list. Recently married friends have the addresses too. I found that about 2/3 of the people responded to emails, but a lot were great with texts. And married people who knew the importance of addresses were the worst! Good luck!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lstyle25:  I am convinced that it is so hard because if it wasn’t then their would be no stressful brides in the world lol. Well that’s what I like to tell myself. I sent out most of my save the dates about 3 weeks ago and just this past sunday got another list of ppl to invite from his mother. Most of them are emails of ppl I never even meet and now I have to write an email to them asking for their address and as well as introduce myself. Oh and the groomsmen have yet to give my fiance their address. :/

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

All I need is two more people’s addresses, and it has taken a month just to get this close! 

I Facebooked people, and my Fiance called the others and we got addresses that way too, but like I said it has taken almost a month and I am sure it will take a few more weeks. 

I can’t help but think how hard it is to shoot off an e-mail? Facebook message? A text? A phone call?! Come on people! It would take no more then 2 minutes at most to send a quick whatever to tell us your address! Why complicate things? I asked my M.O.H about people and weddings and she gave me some interesting info, “People, for some reason just don’t cooperate.” She had these same problems with her guests, people just aren’t as interested in your wedding as you are, and they don’t feel like they are on a timeline, or schedule to respond back to you. Sometimes you gotta light a fire under their butts to get them to FINALLY say something.

I’ve decided that if I don’t get responses by a certain deadline then I’ll take that as a “no show” and move on. 

I am so sorry you have to deal with this!

Good luck though, I feel your frustrations. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@lstyle25:  I totally understand where you’re coming from, it’s not selfish at all! 

It’s nothing against you, or your Fiance people just don’t feel the immediate need to tell you their addresses, if they’re coming, or if they won’t show up, sometimes you gotta keep calling, keep texting and keep Facebooking these people. It’s like trying to herd a bunch of cats. 

Don’t interalize this part of the process, let these things roll off your back, besides you’re getting married! That is the best part of all of this! 

Post # 11
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Wannabee

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Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

I got everything, even rental addresses, at http://www.whitepages.com and http://www.zabasearch.com

 

If you want to invite people, I wouldn’t put the onus on them to send your their addresss.  Do a little detective work.  Between Zaba and White Pages, you can find almost everything you need.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I still have a long while before I need to send my invites out but I signed up for a free site called Postable that allows people to go there and enter there information. Takes them less than 2 minute and I’ve had a really great response so far. Not sure if this will help in your situation but maybe it will help someone who finds this post in the future ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

I’ve been using Postable too. It’s been slow going, thruthfully. Our older guests are suspicious of it.

 

@mink:  Thanks for those sites! I’m about to do some detective work!

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