(Closed) getting annoyed

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard

We’ve had my ring since late April/early may but we can’t get engaged until his divorce is finalized. It’s so frustrating! He doesn’t joke around with proposing but used to refer to me as his wife. Once I replied (snippy) “you already have a wife” he stopped. We’ve been together 3 1/2 years and he was separated before we met (so it’s not some scandalous thing)-The divorce is just taking forever! 😩

I hope your proposal happens soon. Guys just don’t get how torturous waiting can be. Happy Thanksgiving! πŸ¦ƒ 

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

He’s probably excited that he has the ring and to think about proposing to you. I can understand feeling like he’s taunting you rather than proposing but I think it’s sweet that he’s clearly happy that he’s going to be calling you his wife.

Also- one week is not very long to have had the ring.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

My Fiance would do similar things close towards the time of our engagement – I think it’s maybe a guy’s way of dealing with his excitement/nerves about it. It’s like he is mentally preparing for the next upcoming step πŸ™‚

I don’t think he’s trying to be a jerk…

Just joke back and be like it’s not official just yet πŸ˜› haha

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

He’s not dangling it in your face, he doesn’t known that you known he has the ring. Be more light hearted, bee! He’s probablly just excited and happy with the forthcoming engagement. Remember this is his moment too! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Some girl’s SO have their rings for 6+ months so you’re not worst off. If it annoys you then say to him.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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imjessjess :  I know this isn’t really related but before Brother-In-Law & his wife got engaged he fake proposed to her in public, infornt of a ton of people. He got down on his knee and everything. So at least your SO isn’t pulling redic. moves like that! 

I think men just have a stupid/oblivious sense of humor that makes them seemingly act like idiots, when its not intentional.. I think, like pp said that your SO is just excited about getting engaged, so I’d just joke back with him πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

look down at your ring finger, look back at him, then look at your ring finger again and go ‘huh, something’s missing here’.  Just joke back and enjoy the excitement πŸ™‚

 

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Stephville :  must admit, I clutched my pearls and lol’d at your friend fake proposing! Now that is cruel/hilarious.  I would absolutely start pulling fake pregnancy announcements in retaliation. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

I experienced a very similar situation… and then BAM! Out came the ring (I also knew he had it but he didn’t know that I knew… haha)!

I agree with some of the PP’s in that he is likely excited… it is burning a hole in his pocket (or drawer…or safe…).

 

Hang in there! 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I know exactly what you mean, bee. The entire week before my Fiance proposed, he was kneeling to ‘tie his shoes’ and start all his questions with “will you…” and patting his pocket to ‘check for his phone’ OVER AND OVER. Why do I want to marry this guy, again?

I was pretty much dying of frustration by the time he actually asked. Sigh.

But it doesn’t seem to me as if your guy is teasing! It just reads like he’s overexcited and can’t help himself. Enjoy it, you (hopefully) only get to see pre-proposal jitters once. And just focus on the fact that you’re getting a ring in the near future. It’s great! You should be happy and excited!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

This is why I keep telling my bf I don’t want to know when he has the ring. It seems to be the norm now a days or at least here on the Bee. “My bf has the ring and he hasn’t proposed yet!” Even if we go design something together, I don’t want to know when or if he buys it, I don’t want to be there when he does, I don’t want to know when he picks it up, and I don’t want to know when the proposal will happen. It’ll take some SERIOUS sneaking around on his part because we’re always together. It seems like men in general need to find some better hiding places and be less careless with those reciepts, internet histories etc. Just be honest with him and tell him how it makes you feel when he says those things. Sounds like it’s coming soon though!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

My SO made jokes like that and I simply wiggled my ring finger and said, “Not yet, sweetheart.” Or I just rolled my eyes and told him he wasn’t allowed to call me his wife until I actually was. I learned from growing up with a father who would frequently tease me that the less emotion you show, the quicker they will lose interest in the (sometimes hurtful) joking.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you know he has a ring and is planning to ask you to marry him, and he knows you’re going to say yes, why not just be engaged already?

Post # 14
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Worker bee

Mine calls me the future wife….and his mates call me Mrs Barton….and although it’s lovely it still stings alitre bit, it’s gotten old fast! least he has the ring and he’s going to pop the question soon, chin up πŸ™‚

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