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Newbee
My fiancé did not grow up anywhere near where we live. His parents no longer live in the country and supposedly the only person that has photos of my fiancé as a child is his sister (my bridesmaid).
Months and months ago we began actively trying to locate photos of him (we intend on setting up photos of us at different ages to use as table numbers); anyway nothing has come of it, though we were told by his sister that she would do it. We are now less than a month away and I am a little frustrated.
My question is what would you do instead?
My fiancé has volunteered to pretend to be different ages in photos and I don’t totally hate the idea, but maybe there is a better option.
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
Sones1985: So if you can’t get the real thing, you will use fake photos of him for his wedding? Really? Why not just scratch the idea and do something else. It would seem weird to have stand in kid photos for his own wedding if he doesn’t have to.
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sarahalthea: I don’t disagree, but it is a project we have been working on for some time and it wasn’t cheap. I am not ready to just toss it out… but I can see your point. Thank you for the feedback.
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Bumble bee
Sones1985: What if you did pics of the two of you in different stages of your relationship, if possible? Like a pic of you in month 1, etc? Or something to that effect?
Post # 5
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Newbee
sarahalthea: That’s a cool idea! I will have to look and see what I can find. Thanks!
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I have a similar problem where my FI’s old photos were mostly burned in a house fire years ago.. so sad 🙁 We’re tracking down some his schoolmates etc.
I wouldn’t do the fake photos. His family’d know and honestly that’s just an awful idea!
I do love sarahalthea’s idea though!!
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Bumble Beekeeper
Sones1985: Do you or your fiance live near your sister, so that one of you can go through her photo collection yourselves? That would minimise the amount of work she has to do.
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MrsYoshida:
Oh my gosh, that’s terribly sad about his photos for everyone involved. I can’t imagine what else they lost, but that is a whole lot of history there. Hitting up old school mates is a good idea, plus I am sure those photos are extremely fun/playful! I wish you the best of luck on your quest!
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aussiemum1248:
His sister lives in Maine and we live in CA unfortunately. I didn’t want to put this on her at all, but she is the only one with photos.
Post # 10
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I suppose it is important for me to disclose that this entire project was something I made up for my Dad, to make him feel important and part of the process. He is a photo person, history major, and he loves organizing. I gave him full control over the photos of me and my family in my childhood years and it is really bothering me that I had my Dad do this all for not; like I am spitting in his face for having done all this work for me because my fiancés family can’t be bothered to find twelve childhood photos with my fiancé in them.
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