Post # 1
When Dear Daughter wakes up during the night, I guess my automatic reaction has been to give her a bottle. But she falls asleep as soon as she starts drinking her milk. I have been waking her up to get her to take more of the bottle in hopes that she’ll sleep longer but instead I think I created a baby who wants milk to get herself back to sleep when she wakes up at night. She has been waking up more often and frequently lately and I’m afraid it may be because she is accustomed to getting milk during the night, but doesn’t neccesarily need it.
So I have 2 questions. The first one is how to I get Dear Daughter to go back to sleep without drinking her bottle? And the second is how do I know if she’s hungry or just needs a sleep aid?
I’m afraid giving her a bottle just to have her fall asleep on it is just making the problem worse.
Post # 3
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You’re supposed to feed an infant once overnight. Is this happening again and again each night or just once, maybe twice?
My baby isn’t born yet… not until Wednesday, but we plan to follow the Happiest Baby on the Block method. We’ve heard so many great things about it and our hospital recommends it.
Post # 4
Ok, my LO isn’t due for a few more months so I am NOT an expert on babies but have you tried a pacifier? It may not be about the milk so much as her wanting something in her mouth to soothe her.
Post # 5
@mrsSonthebeach- She was only waking up for one feeding and now it has moved to three. The thing is she is only taking a sip at the other 2 feedings and falling right to sleep. So it seems as though she is waking up and doesn’t know how to go to sleep without falling asleep on the bottle, so instead of me going in her room and giving her the pacifier I am warming a bottle and feeding it to her for less than a 1/2 oz (she takes 4-6oz at most feedings).
@iheartnerds- She does have a pacifier but it always falls out of her mouth before she is fully asleep and then it makes her wake up and cry again.
So I just put her down for a nap after her bottle and waited until she was drowsy but not asleep and DH and I spent more than 30mins keep giving her back her pacifier and she was still fighting it, so I tried to see if she was hungry and sure enough she fell asleep instantly when she started drinking.
Post # 6
I am having a similar problem. Posting to bump for you and see the advice 🙂
Post # 7
How old is your baby? She might be also going through a growth spurt where she needs more milk. If you feel she is getting enough milk and she is waking her self up at night let her fuss for a bit. She will eventually learn how to make herself go back to sleep. Our son is 15 months and he wakes up at least once or twice a night and crys a bit and then goes back to sleep. I usually can tell by his cry if it is awake and fall back to sleep cry or is awake because he is up for the day/night or just needs milk. I tend to let it go like this, if the baby monitor goes off once/twice wait if goes off a third time I get up and wait for a minute outside his room. He than crys again I know he needs milk.
Post # 8
How old is your baby, it’s entirely possible she’s going through a growth spurt. My little one is about 4.5 months and she’s going through a stage where she’ll wake every two hours (le sigh) and will eat. We had the problem with her falling asleep while eating but that we figured out was because we made the room ‘too comfortable’ so she’d fall asleep before she got her fill and would subsequently get hungry again. Last night she only woke up once *hallelujah*, and she drank the whole 4oz before falling back asleep.
Post # 9
So if she’s taking a sip and falling asleep then she may not be very hungry. She’s just waking up and soothing herself by sucking on her bottle. This is very common in infants. Some people will sub a binky but you dont exactly want them to become dependant on a binky. Ultimately it depends on how old your baby is, try a few different things. Consult her pediatrician if you are concerned. With my dd we tried sticking to a routine every single night. After a few nights she was was sleeping like a champ and we were finally getting sleep! Good luck! oh and I just saw she takes a pacifier, try a different brand. My dd only liked nam pacifiers, every baby is different.
Post # 10
How old is your daughter? She might be going through a growth spurt or be teething, and the bottle may be soothing her gums. Also, I’m not a mother yet, but I’m an early childhood student and teacher, and what I find works well is to rub a baby’s belly, back, or the bridge of their nose to put them to sleep. I’ve yet to find a baby/child who hasn’t fallen asleep through their forehead or the bridge of their nose being rubbed/ stroked.
Your daughter might also be quite wide awake when she is put to sleep. Try not to overstimulate her before bedtime. Massage with scented oils works amazingly well, especially with lavender oils, as well as a bedtime story or wind down period
Post # 11
Mine is 11.5 weeks, I think we were very close together so I think Roxy’s is about 10 weeks? (correct me if I am wrong)
Post # 12
theres nothing wrong with a nightly feeding. I would keep giving her the bottle vs a pacifier because a pacifier may be a harder habit to break later on, My baby is 16 months and still occasionally wakes up for her bottle. The older they get the less they will need that nightly feeding. Also once you start solids you will notice they sleep through the night a lot more. At least this has been my experience.
Post # 13
My advice is to make sure she’s eating enough at her “real” feeding time, and then let her fuss the other times she wakes up. It’s old-school, but worked for me. With both kids, it was rough for about a week, but once they learned to soothe themselves back to sleep, it was awesome.
Oooh though — 10 weeks? That’s younger than I thought. Ask her doctor, but keep in mind that it’s much easier to establish good sleeping habits while they’re young, than to try and change bad sleeping habits when they’re older.
Post # 14
I used to play classical music or the soundtrack to “The Sound of Music”, swear to all that is holy, to my infant daughter (21 yrs ago) when she would rouse in the middle of the night. Try it. Have a soft, low speaker unit at the ready for those 2am’rs. Regarding feedings though, I breastfed for the first 6 mos, and breastfed bitties need every two hours (don’t get me started; that shit was hell), so the feeding wasn’t the issue; it was when she woke up and didn’t want b-milk and just wanted to giggle and squirm. I’d put the music on and hum to it and she’d just go still and hyper-focus, no lie I will never forget the look, on me, and the ‘ceiling’ trying to ‘grab the music’ and smile til she went back to sleep.
The infant thing is so hard as they are all differnent and respond to different stimuli in varied ways. Good luck to you.
Post # 15
Depending on her age, I’m a big fan of letting them cry it out. Obviously you’re not going to leave a distressed child to scream to the point of being utterly inconsolable, but if she’s crying/winging/making noise, perhaps you should consider it.
It is hard, and it doesn’t work for all children, but I have found it to be the most effective solution to a problem like this.
ETA: Is she 10 weeks? Obviously that is too young to use the CIO method, so I would definitely talk to your doctor/nurse if you’re concerned.
Do you go straight in when she cries? Maybe leaving her for a minute or two, just to see what she does, is another option. If she’s really just looking for the comfort if the bottle and not the actual milk, she may not be fully awake and so leaving her for one or two minutes may mean she goes right back to sleep.
Post # 16
Thank you for everyone’s reply.
I am not discouraging night feedings at all and have no problem with her eating during the night. I am also not practicing CIO as I do believe she is too young. To give you an example, she went to bed at 8pm last night and woke up at 1:20 and took a 5oz bottle. She then woke up again at 3:00 and refused the binky and took less than a 1/2 oz and stayed down until 5:30 Therefore I know she didn’t wake up to eat but instead I think she just woke up and didn’t know how to put herself back to sleep.
At night I do put her to bed awake but drowsy and she is able to fall asleep but for some reason in the middle of the night she can’t fall back asleep without milk. Does anyone have tricks that worked? I just don’t want her to get in the habit of looking for milk whenever she opens her eyes.