- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I honestly was side-swiped when I found out 3 days ago that my grandma was on level II hospice care. She had been ill, but of course, I had believed somewhere inside that she was invincible. That she’d be there, on my wedding day, with grandpa and we’d also celebrate theiri 70th anniversary at the rehersal dinner too.
The joy in the planning temporarily had been taken away and the wind out of my sails. But yesterday, I came down with a stomach bug that my son had earlier this week, and lying in bed all day gave me the time to think this stuff through.
I now realize how she would want me to have an incredible wedding. I reflected on how she was the driving force in designing my sisters’ wedding many years ago (my sis was about to graduate from college) and how gorgeous it was.
I know she would want to be there if she could, and that her spirit is indeed with me. I will do all I can do to honor her and my grandfather at my wedding, even if she has left our midst.
This is what she would want and i am going to do it and do it well! I’ve decided to serve either at the rehersal dinner or as a take home favor, cupcakes made out of her famous coca-cola cake recipe. In fact, part of my theme for the rehersal dinner is “Love is the Real Thing” and “An American Original” (based on famous milestones, our family, and all things Georgia including Coca Cola!) we’re celebrating T’s parents 50th anniversary this summer. Even if she has passed, i will make the day also special and incorporate my grandparents and their 70 years together too. I don’t want to make my grandpa sad, but I want to still honor them.
I can think of nothing more yummy than having a rehersal dinner with a low country bbq and amazing old-fashioned desserts including coke floats and cupcakes made from her famous recipe!
Having the privilege of being able to honor her and grandpa in the greatest way I can, gives me some new perspective and knowing what she would want is also helping me thru this very bittersweet phase right now.
have you had to say goodbye to somebody while going thru wedding planning? If so how did you do it?