(Closed) Getting closer and I don't feel good (vent)

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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sydneyfrancis88:  take a deep breath everything will work out. I was super stressed and depressed before wedding. I didn’t want wedding either I wanted to elope and honestly the wedding day was blehhh. It was stressful but you know what at the end of the day it was DH and I. I’m happy I married him and took one for the team with the wedding planning and all. He’s done the same for me in other areas. It’s just one day, get through it ๐Ÿ™‚ and everything will be okay. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I’m so sorry that you feel this way! If it’s going to make you feel better, see if you can arrange to talk to him before the ceremony from opposite sides of a door or something, so that way you can be close to him without actually seeing him. It’s such a bummer that your friend won’t be around– try to focus on the other wonderful friends who will be there to support you! And remember that the important thing is that you’re getting married. Everything else, all of the people, the stuff, the drama, is all fluff. It doesn’t matter in the end. Laser vision like that has helped me so much, so I hope it helps you a bit too!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think that some coping strategies could help. You could learn to lower anxiety with some deep breathing and meditation (I know it sounds silly but it does work). Check out the UCLA mindfulness/meditation website. Also I think it’s totally normal that you’re sad your BFF may not be there. Do you have other friends you could ask for an extra bit of support for the day? Generally my advice would be to do little things to care for yourself. Maybe get a message a few days before or stay over at a hotel if your mom’s driving you nuts. Just do what will make you happy. Weddings become so much about other people in our lives which can be lovely but it sounds like it may serve you well to prioritize yourself for the next couple of weeks!!

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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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sydneyfrancis88:  Inhale through nose….Exhale through mouth while saying St Lucia………

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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sydneyfrancis88:  Hey, as other bees have said – deep breathes!

My best also can’t make my wedding because she is due the following week (we live across the country from each other).  She is also the one to keep me grounded, and my best moral support, and it’s going to be hard not to have her there physically.  So I feel ya! Just remember, as much as she is excited about her baby, I’m sure she also feels some disappointment that she’s going to miss your day.  Maybe set up some time to chat with her the day of, or ask your other girls to skype her in so she can watch the ceremony.  

 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  Kannon.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

If it’s any consolation, I’m not really a big “party” person either, but I am getting married on the other side of the world in my FI’s home country and all of his extended family (some of whom I haven’t met) are going to be there.  Only a few of my family members (Mum, sister) and close friends are able to make it because it’s such an expense to get there (from New Zealand to Europe).

So, try not to worry about things, especially your friend who is having a baby – that’s beyond both your and her control!  Do some yoga, have a lavender-oil bath and do some deep breathing.  Just remember – “it’ll be okay on the day!”

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