(Closed) Getting closer to the wedding and Im a bit bummed

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I honestly dont think it matters if there are 2 or 20 people standing up there with you on that day what matters is that the people up there with you are the ones that are most important to you. I also think it;s easier to organze just 2 people in a bridal party! I would love that! Trust me you dont want some of the problems other bees have on this site with there bridal party..its a headache to say the least

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bellanouva:  I understand where you’re coming from.  I felt the same way when I first began to wedding plan.  It really does get better as time goes.  You’ll see.  (hugs)

Post # 8
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5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Bellanouva: Ohh ok! sorry! I think I read too fast lol. I know what you mean though..I only have a handful of girl friends I’m close with now that I get older but I henestly think this is what happens when people are at this stage in life. I had alot of close friends in highschool and college but the older I got the more of them drifted away…

Post # 9
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bellanouva:  You can always PM me if you want to talk in private.  I don’t mind a bit.

Post # 10
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Bellanouva:  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not having lifelong friendships at this point. I was a rotten person to be around until I was about 20. There, I said it. So I am not still friends with anyone who knew me before then, because most of them were rotten people to be around as well, and we’ve since grown apart. My Maid of Honor is a girl I’ve known for only about a year and a half. But that doesn’t make her any less my best friend, and I don’t feel any shame about the fact that my only other BMs are my sister and my Future Sister-In-Law (brother’s Fi). I’m not having a shower, and barely having any bachelorette, but that doesn’t matter. The fact is, I’m much happier now than I ever have been, and starting a new life with my future husband gets me really excited!

Once you’re married, your friendships will change and evolve anyway. So don’t worry about not having a good network of female friends. When you and your hubs-to-be get married, you’ll probably end up getting more and more couple-friends … and boom, there’s a fully intact network of females ready to go!

Post # 13
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9551 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry this has got you bummed! And I can totally relate. So far I’m having three bridesmaids and I am close with all of them, but I’m not as close with them as I would like because they all live in different states (and all different than me!). I think a lot of my situation is that I’ve only been in my current city for about a year and a half, so I still don’t know a lot of people here. Are you new to your area?

I think it’s harder and harder to make friends as your get older. When you’re younger there are so many opportunities and places where it is expected that you will make friends: after school sports, clubs, dorms, frats, etc. People are less likely to do these sorts of things as you get older, so finding friends is harder. My best recommendation is to treat findings friends as you would findings a boyfriend/SO. It can take some effort. Join groups: churches, adult sports, theater, hobbyist clubs, etc. The more people you meet the more potential friends to gain. And when you meet people, make an effort to become friends. It can feel a bit awkard (like asking out a guy at a bar when looking for a boyfriend) but the benefits outweigh the temporary distress if it doesn’t work. And it won’t always work, but you have to give it an effort. And be patient. And kind to yourself. There are people out there who would love to be close with you. You just have to find them. Good luck!

Post # 15
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

hey sweetheart! Long time no chat! 

No, you’re not the only one. We just cancelled our Vancouver wedding because I was disinterested in it. Several reasons, the original postponement cause by family drama, and the realization I don’t really have any family to share the moment with. Just became depressing and we’ve decided to do a small destination with a few family and friends and keep it simple and more about us.

Weddings can bring out the best in families and sometimes the worst. focus on you and your man, that’s what this is all about. ๐Ÿ™‚

Hope things get better!!

K

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@Bellanouva:  heh, a little late in posting, but just thought I’d let you know that you’re not alone. I feel the sme way.

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