Post # 1
So, I don’t drink and don’t like going to bars, and when it came to figuring out what to do as a bachlorette party, going the traditional route seemed really not my style.
Since we’re getting married in Fall in somewhat upstate New York, and I’ve always wanted to be able to go apple picking with my sisters/best friend (who live in California), I thought hey! Bachlorette party can be apple picking! I also figured it would be a nice chance to hang out with my out of town friends and family who are coming, as I know I won’t get to talk with them much at the wedding.
So…when I first told my best friend the idea, she was really excited, and said it’s a very “me” plan. So of course I got more excited. Though now I’m finding when mentioning it to other people, they say what? What’s wrong with you? Are there going to strippers or naked people at the apple orchard? Etc.
Yeah, I mean I don’t mind celebrating more adult with somebody else, but for me, really not my thing. I think I’d feel uncomfortable. And since I’m planning this the day before my wedding, I’d rather be having a fun time and not feeling uncomfortable.
I’m definitely going to stick with my plan, despite criticism (including criticism from one of my BM). But it’s annoying. Has anyone gotten crap for having a more non-traditional celebrating?
Post # 3
I think your plan sounds great. I dont really get the whole bach party with strippers, and drink till you an’t see staight thing. I don’t like it and it makes me uncomfortable. I am not a big drinker/ partier. I was just going to do dinner and driks with girl friends, and got quite a few comments about it and how boring it would be. I ended up nixing it all together (not because of the comments) and I have no regrets about it.
Post # 4
At worst my “bachlorette” was PG (we watched Dr. Horrible) and while the BMs complained at first they realized it was pretty fun- and we all wanted to go to bed early.
Manicures, cake balls, and movie watching with some of the guys was enough for us. At first they really wanted to go dancing but I didn’t want to so I stuck to my guns and that was enough. (I also don’t drink)
I think apple picking sounds fun!
Post # 5
honestly, sounds really fun to me. you might want to jazz it up a bit with a dinner or something afterwards, just so you feel special, but sounds like some good old-fashioned bonding time to me.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
I just had my bachelorette this weekend and we actually did something super low key by going to a spa. We lounged in the pool and got massages… they did make me wear a silly tiara with some plastic penises on it- that that was as risque as it got!
Post # 7
You are totally right, your bachelorette party should be whatever you want it to be! I think it sounds really fun…I’m kind of jealous 🙂
I went to a bachelorette for a friend who also doesn’t really drink or party, but her bridesmaids planned the evening and basically forced her to go along with it. At dinner everyone was urging her to drink and taunting her that she had to. I could tell she was getting upset and didn’t know what to do. I pulled her aside and told her I would just tell the waitress to make all her drinks virgins but not let anyone else know. She felt much better, but I know she would’ve had more fun doing something relaxed.
Post # 8
im all for going out and having a good time and i dont mind strippers but from what ive seen, some of the male strippers go way overboard – more than the female strippers and really, who wants some strange guys junk rubbed in your face
i like the idea of something different, is there more than the picking? maybe nearby a pie making class or a nice meal afterwards??
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for the validation. 🙂 I’m getting better with sticking to my guns, though it’s nice to have the support in doing so.
I think afterwards, we may have a picnic. I don’t know yet how that would work, but I’ve had people tell me they’ll figure it oiut. And then that night, I’d imagine there will be a lot of prepping with my bridal party (getting nails done probably, and just relaxing), which I think will be a nice end to the day. Hopefully can help me keep my nerves at east.