Post # 1
I’m sitting here in tears and feeling like I’m going to throw up.
I’ve been unemployed for a while. There are very few jobs in my area, especially in my field, but I’ve applied for ALL of them. Last week I interviewed for two jobs I am more than qualified for. I got interviews and seriously nailed them. In both cases the HR people who were interviewing sounded like it was a forgone conclusion that I’d be working there. I was so sure I’d get one of them that last night FI and I drove up to the mall the offices are located in to have dinner and “check out my new neighborhood”.
Well, I just got emails from both departments saying “thanks but no thanks”. They say the whole “We are going with more qualified candidates”. The thing is, one of them was hiring TWENTY FIVE people, all for the same position (call center). I was definintely the most qualified of the group I interviewed with and I can’t imagine there are 25 other people more qualified than me.
So… I’m desperate. This is now the fourth time I’ve had this sort of issue so I have to think there’s something going on. Maybe my last job is bad mouthing me? Maybe they’re doing a background check and there’s some sort of insane mistake? So I’m wondering if it’s appropriate to send an email sort of like the following. Bees, please read it over, critique it or just tell me if this is totally unacceptable and I should just suck it up and never know why.
“Thank you very much for your help during the interview process. The entire team was very welcoming and friendly. I enjoyed meeting meeting all of you.
I just received an email indicating I am no longer being considered for the position. I am sure you have many qualified candidates and these are difficult decisions. I felt my interviews went very well and I have a lot of experience that I feel is very appropriate for the position. I was hoping that you would be willing to share some insight into how this decision was made, so I can hopefully have better luck in my job search.
Any feedback you are willing to give me would be very appreciated! Thank you in advance.”
Post # 3
I think this is appropriate and really, you have nothing to lose! As someone who used to be in HR, I wouldn’t think this was odd and would hope to give constructive criticism to anyone who asked.
Best of luck!
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
This sounds great to me! I’m sorry to hear about your job search struggle. I’m in the same boat. It really takes a toll on your confidence level after being rejected multiple times!!! You sound like a good catch though, I’m sure something great will come along!
Post # 5
First off, i think you should try to find out if there is some reason you are unaware of (like the examples you mentioned). I think the email is extreamly well worded and i think you should send it. Worst case scenario they don’t respond. You are politely asking them ligitimate questions. Go for it. I truly hope things pick up for you. Stay strong. I know its hard but stay positive.
Post # 6
I think that’s just fine to send. I hope some better luck comes your way!
Post # 7
I think it’s perfectly appropriate. They might be hesititant to put it in writing, so you might try to call HR if you can keep it together – but say pretty much the same thing.
I feel you though. Last job I interviewed for I got the “they went with someone more experienced” which I KNOW IS BULL. But that’s what they told HR, so I can’t yell at her on the phone.
Post # 8
I am so sorry for your job search stresses, that is so hard!
Your email is well written and I don’t see anything wrong with sending it. Keep in mind that if it was a personality clash or a vibe they got from you in person they may not own up to it, I know I would have difficulties doing so. Although I suppose they could say something like “you aren’t a good fit” and keep it super generic.
Best of luck and I do hope you find something soon!
Post # 9
@MexiPino: I think the email is great, however I would recommend calling instead of emailing.
Post # 10
@MexiPino: I think that email sounds very professional. I would send it
Post # 11
Totally appropriate! You aren’t being rude or demanding and it doesn’t come across as whiny or desperate. I think it’s totally reasonable to ask for feedback and as one PP mentioned, the worst that can happen is that they just won’t respond. Hope they will though!
I’m sorry you’re not having much luck in your job search. It’s such a frustrating process…definitely not one I’m looking forward to when I’m done with my grad program! Positive thoughts your way!
Post # 12
Thank you all for responding and for your encouraging words! I realize there’s probably only a 20% chance they will respond, but I need to feel like I can do SOMETHING because this whole experience is just so demoralizing and I feel so powerless. I’d call but fuck if I can manage to stop crying for more than 2 seconds when I’m not even talking about it!
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Post # 14
@MexiPino: On its face, I think the e-mail is fine. However, I’m not sure you will get a response because employers are so worried about lawsuits. They tend to circle those wagons pretty closely.
If you think you might want to apply to the same employer again, I might hesitate to send such an e-mail. It might be more worthwhile to use your own professional network. If you have a former collegue or boss or teacher that would be willing to evaluate your resume and interview skills, that might be a better tack.
Also, think about your appearance and demeanor during interviews. Do you need to dress more professionally? Less frumpy? Less flashy? Do you talk too much, too little, too loud? Thik about anything that could maybe use improveent.
Post # 15
I would send it. I had a similar situation happen to me and I emailed them back thanking them and asking them to please consider me if any other opportunities open in the future. Lucky for me, they reached out 3 months later and offered me a job.
Post # 16
Yes send it! If they need to hire that many people, maybe a few of them won’t work out and you’ll stand out for them to contact you!