(Closed) Getting down… and random tears :(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry that you are at an emotional tipping point.  Sometimes crying, getting it all out and then going on with it makes things better.  Everyone needs the relase sometimes!

Not sure if you saw my last post – but you should try swimming with a pull buoy.  I got mine for about 12 bucks, its a floation device that you put between your thighs.  It immobilizes your legs & floats them while you are swimming, so you can focus on your arms.  It’s a hard workout, but it’s a great one, and there is NO stress on your legs.  That might help you release a little stress – esp the stress about not being able to work out to get to your goal.

You definitely need a release though, something that’s just for you, to get rid of stress.  Maybe a bubble bath, glass of wine with dinner. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry you’re going through so much.  That’s a heavy burden to bear, you can’t help but be emotional.  I agree with Ella, sometimes crying and letting it all out can be a really great cleanse.  My husband and I were snippy with each other a month or 2 before the wedding.  The uncertainty of our finances, of our wedding day itself, of our future- it was a lot.  And its really hard to put things into perspective when you’re in an emotional place.  We realized that we needed to express ourselves in a more direct way, instead of in the passive agressive way we sometimes ended up using.  Regarding your family situation, I wish there was something to say to make it better.  There isn’t.  Your family’s are letting you down and all you can do it try your hardest to ignore it all.  I know for sure your brother will regret his decision to not attend.  But, I think you guys will feel great once its all over with!  You’re almost there ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well worst case, you could always do some crunches and weights for your arms while on the ground – that might help – and you could get a pair of 5lb weights for pretty cheap.  It’s not much, but it might help.

You definitely get worn down as it gets closer – the more you have to do, the harder it gets, so when you compound it with family issues, drama & an injury, I can only imagine. 

What worked best for me was to make a to do list every day, and check things off the list.  It allowed me to focus on the wedding, get things done & not to give myself time to think about other things.  I also made sure to have SOME fun in the last few weeks.  We had 3 friends over for a barbecue – impromptu, casual, no stress, but it was nice to hang out with friends, and not have to deal with drama.

Weddings def. bring out the “true colors” of everyone you know.  You will lose friends, gain appreciation for some family memebers, and be floored by the responses of others.  But most importantly, you have to try as much as possible to NOT let the stress affect your relationship.  If you snap, apologize, say it’s just the wedding, and you are sorry you are so stressed.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You sound like me a week ago. I know the feeling. Definitely go to the beach. Try to do as much non-wedding stuff as you can even though wedding stuff seems overwhelming. And look forward to the marriage – focus on that, not the wedding. Hang in there. You’ll get through it. Things are really stressful now, but you can do it. Tell Fiance you love him and why you’re so upset and get a hug and a massage too.

As far as working out – do some pilates or yoga at a gym and see if the instructor can suggest some alternate poses to limit stress on your legs. Also you should be able to work on your arms and upper body with some small dumbbells.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hang in there!

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