Post # 1
Ok. Last spring I went for a brazillian at a day spa that gives "courtesy" (ie a discount) to those working with my hospital. I had really been wanting one for a while and thought it would be nice to NOT have to worry about anything on the trip T and I were going to go on soon. We were having a four day trip to Savannah and then to St. Simon’s Island. I was going to try to ocean kayak w/him and we’d spend alot of time at the beach, in the pools, and in the water.
Apparently I got the worst wax ever. I used some numbing cream that was prescribed to me but the woman who did it I later found out got FIRED the next day for botching another one. I also later found out she was actually a mom of one of the other aestheticians and had graduated a few years earlier from school for that but had not done waxes that much and another employee was sick so she "filled in" for them doing the bikini waxes.
Needless to say, about 2 hrs later, I was red and bumpy and some of my netherworld had swollen and was in so much pain I had to get my doc to prescribe some tylenol with a mild painkiller attached as it was excruciating! Plus apparently some little teeny stubble was there and she didn’t get it right at all… T was upset as I was in so much pain and I was worried it would ruin our trip which was 2 days later . I couldn’t zzz at night and at work the next day I literally sat on a pillow and once went into the bathroom and cried. She botched it up that bad and it was THAT painful.
After multiple applications of ice packs and some warm baths inbetween, I went on the trip but was hurting.
Here’s the deal. After that horiffic experience, I am skeptical about getting another brazillian. Instead I use this expensive silicon based shave gel that seems to do well, but I’d love to ditch the razor once and for all. Before we get married, T wants to buy for me (and Im blonde and not exceedingly hairy) some lazer stuff because we’re going to try to do a 2 week vacay. I dive, swim alot, and detest the feeling of swimming in the ocean and getting a stingy feeling after shaving! I’m not sure if lazer is the way to go as it’s permanent, but am terrified of getting another brazillian after the huge botch up last spring. Yes I would NOT go to the same day spa ever again. Never ever ever!
Should I try another day spa (I would forego any discount and just go where they have great reviews) and try the wax again? We leave the fifth of march very early in the morning for our engagimoon trip. (830 am) When should I plan for the wax and should I try it again? This time I want to have fun, not scream in pain when snorkeling or diving, and not be afraid of salt water.
Post # 3
What do you think I should do?
If I choose another day spa (have already found one btw with incredible reviews), when should I schedule it? How many days before? last time I scheduled it 2 days out..and then you all know what happened.
Post # 4
If you think waxing is the way to go then it’s always a good idea to see what their reviews are like and it sounds like you might have a place already. I was told by a trusted friend who is also an aesthetician that you should schedule a wax for at least five to seven days before the "event" for which the waxing is required, depending on how quickly your body heals in general. Usually that’s enough time for any redness and bumps to go down and heal. Also, you should make sure the place you go to has a "no double-dipping" policy, which means they use a clean wooden spatula every time they need to apply the wax to your body. Believe it or not there are still many places that do not adhere to this policy and, as a result, you can (despite the temperature of the wax) end up picking up any number of germs that could cause infection. Also you can take some painkillers a few hours before the wax to help deal with the pain if you are worried about that. Laser is a good option too but may require a number of treatments to remove hair from the areas you want to clean up. Hope this helps, good luck!!
Post # 5
Thanks! I really appreciate you giving me some tricks of their trade and good questions to ask before going. I will schedule a few days out.
As for the trip coming up soon, will just do the wax, but for the honeymoon later this year? Might check on the laser. But it is permanent and that is well..???
Not sure how to view that yet. Would love to hear pros and cons of all three
- old fashioned razoe
Post # 6
You got the worst wax ever. I am a huge sissy about all kinds of pain, but I have never had a wax that was any more than uncomfortable. The warm wax actually feels kind of nice, and a good esthetician will be done in no more than 10 – 15 minutes, even for an extended wax. I have also never had any more than mild redness afterwards, although to be safe you should schedule your wax about 5 days ahead of time, and if you’re sensitive, don’t use any harsh soaps on the area for a few days.
Also, I find that if your hair is really long, it does hurt more. Probably 1/4 inch is the best, so maybe borrow your FI’s beard trimmer and go over it the week before if you’ve been au natural all this time.
Post # 7
I have to be honest..why waxing was what I wanted to do is because when I wake up at the beach, I just want to throw my swimsuit on and hit the beach or pool immediately. Or go for a walk and go shelling. Last thing I want to do is to have to worry about shaving and wasting time. Being more carefree is the choice I’d like.
T joked with me saying maybe he could take me out to have a margarita or 2 before my appointment and he could pick me up afterward…I am just that afraid of pain after the botched horror flick session with that so called aesthetician! And I have a seemingly high pain tolerance level..
Post # 8
Hi! I also wax, and I wouldn’t go back to shaving for anything. I’m planning on doing laser after the honeymoon, too. Most laser treatments take a full year. You have treatments every month (or couple of months) — and there’s no shaving or waxing allowed in btw treatments. So, obviously, unless you have a full year until your wedding, I may rethink getting laser until afterwards and just stick with waxing until then.
Post # 9
ouch I’m so sorry about your horrible expirience but I wouldn’t let it turn you off to waxing completely. I’ve been getting brazillians for a few years now and I would never go back to shaving. Once you find a good waxer it will all be worth it. Eventually less hair will grow out and it will be much thinner so every time you wax it’ll hurt less and less.
As far as laser goes, it’s best for people with dark hair. If you have very light hair they might have a problem getting rid of it. But everyone I know who has lasered says it’s amazing and was only mildly uncomfortable. I’m definitely thinking about it and will probably do it when I have some extra money lying around.
Post # 10
The laser is a great option but just realize that it is usually 2 months in between treatments and usually takes at least 6 to get rid of all the hair. Since you are a blond and the laser might not pick up your light pigment as well, it may take even more. Just plan ahead. It doesn’t hurt that bad and the results are great!
Post # 11
I did the waxing for a while. Always waxed, never razored. But now that I’m poor, it’s the razor! I don’t find it to be all that bad as some people make it out to be.
Post # 12
That sounds horrific!!! I’ve never heard of a waxing story like that. I have had several pre-vacation bikini waxes before, but never the full Brazilian, just cleaning up the edges. It takes far less time and is far less painful Would you be willing to try that or do you prefer the look of the full Brazilian?
If you want to try again with a different spa, I’d suggest asking your hairdresser for recommendations. People in the beauty industry generally seem to know who’s good.
Post # 13
Thanks for all the thoughts! I am going to do the wax. Will make appt tomorrow and also talk to some of my doc friends seriously..I want NO PAIN..and the mental agony of remembering what happened combining with the actual agony that horrible waxer put me through is going to make me the most throrough waxing-afficianado that you’ll ever hear of! I will be only going to the most pain-free spa/salon to get it done!
I swear…it was as bad as a comedy. If I didn’t know better (it’s not like I could see what was happening down there really well ya know..lol!), I’d swear she must’ve ripped off the wax in the wrong direction.
Post # 14
I wax and cannot go back to shaving. I get crazy razor burn and it never lasts more than a few days. It sounds like you had one bad experience. My advice would be to go to a reputable place (perhaps where a friend goes). Also you might want to try a "high bikini" rather than brazilian – it is a little less waxing. One other thing – I use something called "tend skin" before I get a wax and for a week after I get a wax. It prevents ingrown hairs, etc. Good luck!
Post # 15
I did laser hair removal and I am soooo glad I did. I have also had bad waxing experiences and have determined that my body just does not like to be waxed. Laser hair removal takes time — I did 5 treatments over about a 9 month period. 5 sessions is usually the minimum required. If you do laser hair removal you will need to do your homework — find a place that specializes in it, not one that just bought the laser for extra business. I would not go to a day spa for this.
Post # 16
wax — did a bikini line wax once and didn’t think it was worth the pain
at a different spa got my legs done once and they were horrible/splotchy/red
laser — also did JUST the bikini line…yah it takes a year, but after 2-3 there is hardly anything there….also, when I would shave, it didn’t seem as irritated, bc there were fewer there, then I just "trim" the rest…for me, I don’t really like the bare look and my skin is SO sensitive it isn’t worth it, you can’t wax in between lasers, though, only shave…I started mine in the fall