Post # 1
Im probably the odd one out, but, Im not looking forward to it.
Im just uncomfortable getting dressed with an audience. Im especially worried about my mom being in the room. I dont know I am just not comfortable being “sexy” around her as I was thinking of wearing shapewear corset and cute underwear.
any other bees uncomfortable with the idea of an audience while getting dressed?
Post # 3
@Luvadovedove: I got dressed alone. Just me and the photographer. If you are uncomfortable you can have everyone step out until you’re ready to zip up the dress.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Awwww, I understand where you’re coming from, but I wish wish wish my mom were still alive and could come drink a glass of champagne with me as I got dressed. 🙁
Is there a way you can avoid this, or is it already decided that your mom will be in the room the whole time? Maybe you could arrange it so a friend is with you as you put the dress on, and then your mom can come in and help with the rest?
Post # 5
You can always put on the dress by yourself and with a close girlfriend and just come out to have the others help zip you up, put on shoes and put on veil. 🙂
Post # 6
@melonseeds: +1. I think you might be overthinking this. It’s totally reasonable for you to get dressed alone and then just have someone zip you up.
However, I think your mom also knows you’re going to wear cute underwear and maybe even have sex. It’s your wedding night. ; )
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
i didnt have my mum in with me when i got dressed – i had her go get my dad and wait in another room so i could do a big ‘reveal’ for the both of them.
my best friend (MOH) and my photographer helped me into my dress – i didnt even want pics of me getting dressed (just in bra and pants with my arse and belly hanging out… i dont think so!!!)
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I agree that you might be overthinking this a bit. You don’t have to have all our your BMs/family in the room with you. Assuming that you’ll need some help with the dress, you could step into it, then come out into another room and get help with zipping etc- those can make for sweet photos.
Post # 9
Thanks. I just see all these pictures of all the BMs and MOB helping the bride get dressed so I just assumed it was common place. I just don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, specifically my mom’s, but, I also want to be comfortable. My dress is a corset back so I will need some help.
Post # 10
@Luvadovedove: I think I will be putting the dress on on my own but just getting mum to zip it up. There is no need for my BMs or Mum to see me in underwear (or very little underwear if I go for sewn in cups)
I’m thinking I will ask our photographer to meet us at the venue anyway as I want to get ready at my parents but the house and all the rooms are pretty tiny.There isn’t really anywhere with enough room or even light enough for some good shots. UK homes are significantly smaller that those in the states.
Post # 11
I’m definitely getting dressed alone, and having my girls and mom help zip me up. Not weird at all!
Post # 12
Yeah, I’ve never been okay with being practically naked with people around, even my mother. So I’ll be putting it on by myself and then having my mom/girls button me up.
Post # 13
@Luvadovedove: Why can’t you get dressed in privacy?
Post # 14
@Luvadovedove: I’m generally not, but my dress is super tight and requires some very ungraceful wiggling to get on, and I’m planning on going commando (maybe a thong, but no corset or anything) so there will definitely not be any pics while I’m actually pulling it on.
You can get the traditional getting-ready pics while they lace/zip you up or adjusting your veil or putting your shoes on, you don’t have to actually have anybody (or anybody you’re uncomfortable with) in the room while you’re in the altogether. And if you’re fairly conservative about nudity, it’s likely your mother feels similarly, and won’t mind if you get dressed alone and then have them come in to help you get the details arranged.
I like the previous poster’s suggestion to have her and maybe your dad waiting outside and then show them as a mini-reveal when you’re all ready, you could even have the photographer photograph their reaction. That way you can have her outside the room for sure (to set your mind at east about nudity) but also make it clear you’re not neglecting her (to set your mind at ease about hurting her feelings).
Post # 15
I took my clothes off and put my dress on in a big bathroom and came out and was tied up then. No one saw me other than my back. My dress was huge and I had a huge petticoat as well but I just practiced before.
Post # 16
@Luvadovedove: I put my dress on myself, but let my mom zip me up