Getting engaged after partner had an affair. Having doubts but I made mistakes.

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 361
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would forward his agreement to shoulder the closing cost to your lawyer so that way it is documented, since he agreed to it in writing it should be upheld 

Post # 362
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Blushing bee

camelliasinensis14 :  That’s great that he agreed to make it a little easier for you. I agree with pp that it may not be because he cares but because he wants to release the money to buy something where he and his girlfriend can live, so still be careful about anything he says or promises. I hope you are doing better and reaching out to people for support. Your post about how you discovered the affair sounds incredibly painful.

Post # 363
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83 posts
Worker bee

weddingmaven :  I also doubt he is doing it out of kindness. It’s more important to save face than save some money, and he must have realized that. 

Post # 365
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1054 posts
Bumble bee

camelliasinensis14 :  Thanks for updating us. 

I know it’s been said over and over, but I want to say it again just in case – you are not at fault. You did not deserve this. This is heartbreaking and awful, but it will get better and you will come out the other side stronger and wiser, and ready for better things. 

Post # 366
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

camelliasinensis14 :  I’m really glad he agreed to solely financing all the closing costs associated with selling your house. I’m glad my work friend told me her story and I’m sure as hell glad I was able to pass it on to you in a time where it could help you. 

Wishing you all the best and I hope that by this time next year you are feeling at peace with everything and are happy and living your best life. 

Post # 367
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - City, State

How you doin’ OP?

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