I was prev married, engaged now.
With my ex, I thought if I treated him as best I could, he would love and value me. But, he just. Didn’t.
He was cynical, mean, critical, demanding, unnappreciative. He was short with the kids, judgemental.unsupportive. arguments were constant, always crticising, anytime I would stand up for myself he’d escalate to control me. He was irresponsible and immature. I think he only liked me because of sexual attraction. I thought I could overcompensate with nice, to dilute his negative.
He had two personalities… goofy or angry. No shame.
He later became sneaky wth our money and lies,and sank us financially, also doing unacceptable things behind my back, one was going on 15 years before I stumbled onto it. And he’d gaslight me.
I loved him deeply, in the way teenagers do. Selflessly.
His family was unkind to ne, and he never stood up for me.
Later after 25 years, he said he isn’t cut out for marriage and wants a rockstar lifestyle. I let him to it.He’s in now an open relationship with a porn model.
Now, I am with someone very like me. With integrity, and honor. Someone would wants me to be me. Who values me.
We don’t fight. Any disagreements are just that, and handled like adults. I admire and respect him. His family is sweet to me.
Life is calm and peaceful and easy in a way I can’t even describe. I am never taken for granted. I am better because of him.