Getting Fixed (bilateral salpingectomy)

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m wondering why the tubal ligation is better than the vasectomy?  It is a surgery instead of a procedure.  I would make sure you are completely at peace with your decision.  At the same time, if you change your mind, you can always do IVF.  Expensive but possible.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I think it may just be your “lizard brain” talking. It’s hard for us as humans to make absolute choices… we like having options and perhaps having this option taken away is bringing up those unconscious feelings.

Your mother isn’t you, and she doesn’t know what’s best for you. Good luck with your surgery, I think you’ll get that sigh of relief afterwards like you said 🙂

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Sending hugs! It was not cool for your mom to say that. It would rattle me. It sounds like she didn’t think through how much it could hurt you to hear that – like she was trying to protect you but wounded you instead. If I were in your situation, I would want to be understood, not have people doubt me.

It sounds like you’re making a choice you’re comfortable with! There is always some emotional turmoil around charged events like this, and that’s just normal. Good luck with the surgery!!! Also, endometriosis sucks (I don’t have it but have had burst cysts and gahhhh abdominal pain) – hopefully they get some stuff figured out while they’re looking in your abdomen!

Edited to add: just realized this is an old thread… so I hope stuff went well way back when! 🙂 

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