(Closed) Getting Friends to Remember

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Honestly? I think if you blew them off about it for 2 months I wouldn’t expect an engagement party now. But if you really want to go out then why don’t you arrange something else? Like mention that you’d like to go out with them for dinner before you become a married woman and see if they’re up for it. 

IMO you can’t ask someone to throw a party for you and especially not if they were asking you when it was good for you to start and you just blew them off. But you can say that you want to spend time with them as a group and go out for a girly dinner.

Post # 5
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3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with @littlemissmoo–if you blew them off, then I wouldn’t expect them to continue asking when you want to go out for your party. Plus, if you were trying to distance yourself from them because of the drama, I’m not sure why you would want to be going out with these girls now…? I would do as she suggested, and phrase it as a girls’ night out, not necessarily a party thrown in your honor, because you can’t make someone throw you a party. I mean, I guess you could say, “So, hey are you still thinking of putting together that engagement party that you mentioned? I’m really excited about it!”. But if she kind of just brushes it off and doesn’t follow up, then I think you just have to let it go.

Post # 7
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Typically when I see things about engagement parties, it include both the bride-to-be and groom-to-be.  Would your Fiance be involved in this party?  It kind of sounds like it’s just the group of girls.  

Post # 9
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you had a friend who blew you off when you tried to throw her a party, and who you suspected might be trying to distance herself forever, would you want to keep trying to throw her a party?

Post # 12
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

Honestly I’d let that ship sail.  If they come around again, OK.  But you blew it off, and admit that you wanted to distance yourself from them.  Well you might have gotten that.  You know…cake and eating it too.

It’s great thatthings are better now.  Are you planning on asking these girls to be BMs?  If so they’ll have enough to do planning a shower and bach party.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Well digressing a bit into the Bridesmaid or Best Man situation, and unsolicited advice….   If you already have 3-4 Bms in mind, I would hesitate to ask a couple of girls from one group of friends and not the rest.  (But I don’t know the dynamics.  If by chance the girls you say you’re not close to agree and wouldn’t be slighted by not being asked, then OK.  But as a general rule, I’d try to avoid it.)

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ummm you blew them off and you want to distance yourself from them because they have drama, yet you want them to take your out to dinner and throw you a big engagement party?  Wow…. how very nice of you….

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