- 6 years ago
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8+ years (we’re both 28). Will be 9 in September. We’ve been living together for about 3+ years now. We’ve talked about the important stuff, marriage, kids, etc. The problem is that he’s been looking for a job for about 3 years working various part time jobs in the meantime. I’m starting to get impatient because I would like to be married by the time we’ve been together for 10 years (and I have sneaking suspicion his younger sister’s boyfriend is going to propose to her this year sometime). So after one of our many fights about his job search last week I asked him if he doesn’t plan on proposing if he doesn’t get a full time job. And he said yes. And I know this is a horrible thing to say but I don’t think he’ll get a full time job. The economy sucks, he’s been out of school for years, wasn’t a great student. I’m happy to marry him without a full time job as long as he’s working and trying but apparently he doesn’t feel the same.
I know he’s the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. We joke about being togehter and committed longer than our married friends. And some days it doesn’t bother me at all to think that we won’t get married. But then some days I feel like crying if I think we won’t get married. Added to the fact that although we’ve been dating for so long, my family still doesn’t consider him a part of the family because we’re not married. They don’t even get him birthday/Christmas gifts!
Just needed to vent and get some opinions.