Getting Frustrated/upset: HAS a Ring but HASNT PROPOSED LONG BUT PLZ READ

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you talked to him about it at all? i know its a hard thing to bring up but if its doing this to your head maybe you and he need to have a conversation and see what his thoughts are on the timeline. I couldn’t imagine dealing w that! Its really too bad you know he got the ring, if you didn’t know you couldn’t obsess over it! I can’t offer any been there done that advice either. My Fiance bought a ring without my knowledge and proposed the day he picked it up. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

im sorry, all I can do is empathize with you. My bf bought the ring New Years Eve, so almost 2 months ago and waiting especially when you know he has the ring is even harder than no ring at all! (harder in a different sense, i guess)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Maybe its not that he is stalling but just trying to come up with a way to suprise u or make it more special since u had to be involved in all the other stuff. Try and think about it from his point of view so u don’t get it so frustrated. It’s a big moment for him and he wants to make it perfect for u.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

It’s semiiiiiiiiiiiii hard for me to empathize when there are so many girls who DONT have all the knowledge you already do about him, the ring, the talking to your parents lol. I know you are frustrated and came to vent, which is understandable. The only thing I will say is that you have to relax. There is no rush, he has the ring. Let your man do his thing and whatever he has planned for you. Enjoy your relationship, and think positive. You have no reason to be upset, you are so very lucky! You have what seems like a great man who wants to spend the rest of your lives together as your husband. Find solace in that ๐Ÿ™‚ It WILL happen…he may just have something planned or want to do it on a particular day. It will happen hun, just have patience ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

He’s probably trying to surprise you and doesn’t realize how crazy he is making you! I’d talk to him and gently let him how it feels to be waiting and ask him if there’s any particular reason he hasn’t done it yet.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

you poor thing ๐Ÿ™ talk to your man and see if everything went okay with your folks ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

maybe he has a special date in mind; my Fiance had the ring for 8 months before popping the question (i didn’t know this but found out after the fact), and it had nothing to do with me.  just that he was waiting for the right moment.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you tell him and he responds by immediately proposing in a non-romantic way you are going to be so mad at yourself, which is why I advise relaxing and not saying anything, he probably has something special planned and is going to be really bummed if he has to change it because of pressure to do it now.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lin2:  He might be waiting until it is all paid off. I know for my Fiance it was important for him to be able to pay in full (he ended up not doing it because they offered no interest for a year so he let the money sit in the bank and earn interest and then paid it off slowly because it was basically a free loan). Your SO might have purchased the ring with a payment plan, and maybe he just wants to make the last payment before he gives it to you.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It will happen soon enough!!! Just wait for your moment!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PPs who say he’s probably just trying to surprise you.  I know how it is, it’s way better to not know anything in my opinion!  You won’t even remember this frustration after he proposes, I promise.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

I agree with PPs – relax …. know that your man loves you, wants to propose and spend the rest of his life with you, has bought a ring, and has spoken to your family. It could happen at any minute, but the more tense and on-edge you are, the less likely it is to happen, as it sounds like your SO really wanted this to be a suprise. Relax, enjoy these last few weeks as Boyfriend or Best Friend and Girlfriend as soon you’re going to get wrapped up in wedding planning.

It will happen and likely soon – just relax and let him do his thing. It will be much more special for you both if he is able to do it the way he wants to.

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