(Closed) Getting gifts 2 months before wedding-when to send thank yous?

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
8140 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@lovemyrussianpooza:  I sent mine out as soon as we received gifts so that it made our list of Thank Yous to send after the wedding smaller! But i think etiquette states that you have 3 months to send thank yous for gifts received before the wedding.  🙂

Post # 4
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would wait, because some people get you a gift before and one at the wedding, so if you sent one now, you’d have to send a second one


Post # 5
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We sent ours out as we started we receiving gifts to we didn’t have nearly as much to do after the wedding. I looked up the etiquette for this and it just recommended sending your thank yous within 3 months of receiving your gifts.

Post # 6
1114 posts
Bumble bee

Send all thank you cards out asap! Trust me, it will be really tough to meet your goal of having them all out by the end of August if you don’t start making leeway with mailed checks/cash/gifts and shower gifts. And also send people thank you cards for any favors they might have done for you! Helping with shower food, etc. This will really help you to not have as much to do later on.

Post # 7
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We made a list of what we received, and waited until we got our thank you cards from our photographer before we sent any out. We got married 3/23/13 and had all cards out by 4/10/13.

Post # 8
82 posts
Worker bee

If you’re not going crazy from all the wedding planning, I’d get those thank yous out of the way as the gifts arrive. I’ve definitely gotten pre-wedding thank you notes for gifts I sent early, and my reaction as the thank you recipient has been: “Haha, that’s [insert name] for ya. She’s always so on top of things!”

Post # 9
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I send mine out as soon as I receive the gift. I know I have tons to get done and would rather not have them pile up.

Post # 10
2566 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Our shower is the end of the summer with the wedding this winter (traveling to a different state for the shower hence the long time in between).  I think I’ll see if we can make it a goal to have all thank yous out by Thanksgiving! 😛

Post # 11
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve been receiving gifts early, and I’ve been sending out thank you cards as quickly as I can (which since I procrastinate is really not all that fast, lol)


I even have an excel spreadsheet to help me keep track of everything!  A bunch of thank you cards are going out today actually…  I don’t want people to think I’ve forgotten about them or that I don’t appreciate their gifts!  (I do! I do!)  I just think of it as keeping ahead of the curve…I don’t want to be slammed with these right after the wedding.  

Post # 12
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You open the gift, write a thank you right away, then put the gift aside and do not use it until after the wedding. Pre-wedding gifts should have thank you’s sent within 2 weeks of when the gift was received, just like with any other gift you get. If you send it right away though, then you don’t have to worry about forgetting or having them pile up.


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