Post # 1
As the subject says- we’re starting to get things from our registry shipped to our house- do we open them or wait until after the wedding? I thought we should wait, FI disagreed, and my mom wanted us to open hers immediately. What did you do?
…time to start another spreadsheet!
Post # 3
@bkrocks13: I say it’s totally up to you. Some people would rather wait because they’re slightly superstitious or think they should wait until after the wedding. I think it doesn’t matter, personally. Since your fiance wants to wait, why not just wait?
Post # 4
@Blonde17Jess: Ha I’m the one who said we should wait actually, FI wants to rip everything open! Maybe we’ll open the ones that people ask about (like my mom who txted me “your present is coming today- call me when you see it!”) and leave the other ones till later. I’m not used to all these gifts!
Post # 5
I would absolutely open them. I think the superstition is more about using them than opening them. Guests who are sending you gifts now will appeciate a thank-you note so they know you received their gift!
Post # 6
Also, if it helps, I added “gift” and “thank-you note sent” columns in my guest list spreadsheet and just kept track of all of our gifts and thank-you notes there. 🙂
Post # 7
We only received one so far and we opened it – the friend that sent it had texted to see if we’d gotten it. 🙂
I say open but don’t use anything til after the wedding!
Post # 8
We’re just opening the outer box and the card or invoice to see what it is and who it’s from so we can write an appropriate and timely thank you card. Once we’ve done that, it’s going into a closet until after the wedding.
Post # 9
I agree with open right away, but don’t use until after the wedding. That’s probably what we’ll do.
Post # 10
@bkrocks13: us too. we received our first gift in the mail. i thought it would be a shower gift. but when i saw the sender, it was FI’s friend who is not invited to the shower.
we took it out of gift box but still in it’s own box as we weren’t planning to use until after the wedding, unless something comes up where we really want to use it.
i will send a thank you note this week.
does the same go for shower gifts? can we use those before the wedding? or is that faux paux too?
Post # 11
@bkrocks13: sorry that I got it mixed up. Regardless, I say do whatever you want to do! If either of you feels really strongly one way or another, do that. I don’t think it matters which you do, just your preference. Personally I do agree with opening it and sending a timely thank you so that people aren’t wondering if it made it or not. I was in the “wondering” camp a few times, but just assumed it got there and expected that I’d get a thank you later on down the road.
Post # 12
I plan to open any gifts we receive immediately, and send a thank you card the following day so the giver knows that we have received it. Wedding gifts should never be used until after the actual wedding however. You just never know…
Post # 13
We opened them and used them right away. We opened them because we wanted to send thank you notes right away and we used them because it didn’t make sense to pile them all up in our spare bedroom.
Post # 14
Any gifts that were delivered prior to the wedding were opened up immediately … so much fun!
Post # 15
I totally did not anticipate this- I don’t even have our thankyou cards yet. Yet another thing to add to the list…
Post # 16
@bkrocks13: I would open them. They aren’t doing any good sitting in a box, and you may be able to use that stuff! Also, your mom wants you to open hers so at the very least you should open that one.