Post # 1
So, I’m 9 weeks pregnant today, and few of our friends and family know already, but we are saving the surprise for everyone else, including our parents for February. Now, the other night, our friends showed me their sonogram picture and announced they were about 7 weeks along!
It was so hard not to say anything, and I geuss I didn’t act excited enough because I got an email from her a couple of days later asking me if I wanted any advice on how to conceive, because it seemed like we we having some trouble! I just deleted the message because I did not know how to respond. Anyone else trying to keep it a secret for just a little while longer but finding it really hard to?
Post # 3
Congrats! How exciting! Was her email upsetting to you? Not sure why she asked if you needed advice? Does she know you had been trying to have a baby? Well, good luck keeping mum about your good news. I’m sure it is hard to do! 🙂 You only have to wait 5 more weeks (assuming you will tell people at the 12 week mark) ANd that is exciting that you and your friend are pregnant at the same time. 🙂
Post # 4
Thank you! I wasn’t really upset by the email. I actually thought it was kind of funny, and she does know that we were trying. I geuss it will make it that much more fun to tell her when the time comes.
Post # 5
We waited until 12 weeks to tell everyone and it was so hard to do! Only my best friend knew we were pregnant. Our parents didn’t know neither did our siblings. My mom was shocked that I was able to keep it a secret that long.
You’re at 9 weeks, so you’re almost there! The surprise on everyone’s faces will make it so worth it.
Post # 6
as someone thats been told recently that my friend is 4 weeks pregnant – THANK YOU for keeping your news quite until after the first trimester! i hate being told about a pregnancy before 12 weeks
you only have a few more weeks to go – goodluck!
Post # 7
We are about 9.5 weeks right now and have only told our immediate family (parents and siblings).
We are comfortable with telling a few close friends right now but we are just waiting for the right time.
We are hoping to keep it off of facebook as long as we can.
Post # 8
During my last pregnancy, I had a family friend who was due exactly a month before me. Of course they announced after their 12 weeks, and I was waiting. They even said, “nobody can beat this news,” and my whole family just sat there not saying anything b/c they were all ready to burst too. And then I found out at my 12 weeks that I miscarried. I was so glad we didn’t say anything!
Post # 9
I’m 9 weeks today too!! I’ve told my immediate family and VERY close friends. I have my first ultrasound Thursday and will hold out until then. If all looks good i may let my mom & Mother-In-Law spread the word. It is hard to keep it a secret and not tell anyone. Everyone is different, some people tell their friends during the first trimester and others believe its back luck…I thinks its a personal choice whichever way you go. Good luck and wish you well!
Post # 10
It’s definitely tough to keep to ourselves. We’ve told our immediate family. I told a couple of co-workers (only because my nausea was causing a problem and I didn’t want them to wonder what was going on). But other than that we’re really trying to wait until the end of the 1st trimester. Everyone is different though, a lot of people I know shared the news right away.
Post # 11
I had a coworker once tell me at like 3 weeks (she knew that early for some reason) and I felt a little uncomfortable, so good for you trying to wait!
On the flipside, I had another coworker ‘reveal’ that she was pregnant at 16 weeks and I can’t express how awkward it was trying to pretend we didn’t notice her pregnant belly and the fact that she had totally filled out in the face (normally teeny tiny girl). So that was weird too.
I think 12 weeks is the perfect time, maybe a week or two earlier if you’re showing. Although I will never get that luxury because I so much as sneeze and all of my family and friends ask if I’m pregnant.
Post # 12
i’m 9 weeks 3 days and yes, it is so hard to keep a secret! we have told our immediate families and a few best friends, but it’s hard not to share with extended family and other friends. i have to admit, though, that we originally planned on telling one or two friends, but as the weeks have crawled along i’ve spilled the beans to a few extras. but i haven’t shared the news with anyone who i wouldn’t look to for support if something unfortunate happened, so i still think we’re okay.
anyway, you’re not alone! we’re so close…just a few more weeks til the 2nd trimester 🙂
Post # 13
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I think that waiting to tell is more of a modern notion. I respect why you choose to wait, but it seems like a losing battle for me. My husband was so excited about the positive that he went and told everybody he knew a week later (so, I was only at about 4 weeks at the time). I went ahead and announced it on facebook after my first ultrasound at 8 weeks. It was getting to where people who knew would leave comments, and I’d have to quickly delete them before someone else who didn’t know saw them. I figured that regardless of what happens, I’m pregnant now, and I’m excited about it. If something does happen, then we’d have to tell people anyway (parents, family). But that’s just how I felt. Seems like it’s split down the middle in these parts to tell right away or to wait.
Post # 14
I don’t really have an opinion on when to tell people. I can see spilling the beans before 12 weeks just out of excitement/I know I’m going to be naseus. I’m the pukiest person you’ll meet at the best of times, but I can also see wanting to wait until it’s “safe” to tell.
I just had to comment on her offer for “advice about conceiving”… besides, have lots of sex, what do you think that advice may have been?!