(Closed) Getting him to go to couples counseling…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

“I understand that you cut out the ex and that you feel as though the issue is resolved, but I don’t.  Could we go to counseling once, for me?  I reall need you there to support me in getting this cleared up once and for all so that I can let it go.”

“I” statements make it sound like he’s helping you (and he is).  Ultimately, you can’t make him go if he’s sure he doesn’t want to.  You can and should go on your own if it comes to that.  A counselor will give you advice and tools for working through the issues if you go alone as well.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think if he really cares about you and loves you then he will go…You don’t have to make/force someone to go to couples counseling with you, instead they should feel the need to be there for you no matter what and do things with you… Tell him that he thinks that he doesn’t need it but as a couple these are things that has to be worked out together and counseling can help…it’s not just for him..

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

… per your response, I think that this is more on your side, to be honest. Now that he’s cut her out of his life, he really can’t do anything more for you (other than counseling I guess). He can’t undo the years he had with that girl and it’s not fair that he can’t talk about his life from the time he dated her.  He can’t even say he saw a movie a few years back?  He’s not even talking “about” her.  If you don’t feel like you’re making progress with your current therapist, I recommend finding a different therapist. 

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