- 9 years ago
Neither of us lives where we’ll be getting married (although it is where we both grew up), so we’re definitely planning from afar. I’ll be in town there for a week this winter, and will have 3 days when I can visit venues. We’re hoping to have one booked by the end of those three days ~ but that means I need to have appointments to see anything I’d be interested in by then.
So, the past several days I’ve been frantically researching venues online, book marking anything that can hold our party and is relatively near our (limited) budget. I had about 40 places at the beginning of the day.
When J and I talked yesterday, I dissolved into tears over it and tried again to talk him into just eloping. He still isn’t budging 🙂 so I told him if he cares so much about having a wedding, he has to help plan some of it.
He is very willing to help, how he can, so today I gave him an assignment. First, I went through all the bookmarks I had for locations, and deleted anything that was too cliche, or offered the same benefits as another (similar) place but was more expensive, or was too far away, etc. and narrowed it down to 11 venues that I feel are ‘okay’.
Then, I put those 11 in a spreadsheet, the name of each, the room we’d consider renting, their website, and a number of critera for him to rank (location, price, catering options, space size, atmosphere, and his personal impression of the place since he lived in that city a lot longer than I did) on a sliding scale.
His ‘homework’ is to go through them and rank them all by the 1st of January. Then I figure I’ll call the top 3-4 and make appointments to see them.
Yay! He’s totally on board with helping, once I made it into something he can tangibly do to help, rather than just crying about how stressed I was. This reminds me what a good team we make. 🙂