(Closed) Getting increasingly depressed about planning…

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Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Are there community centers that would rent much more cheaply? If you’re into DIY it could be fun to create your own decorations to transform a simple community center with a theme/ colours of your choosing. If you’re serious foodies, is there a local culinary school you can recruit from? A friend of mine hired a couple of enthusiastic young chefs eager to showcase their talents at a fair but reasonable cost and it went over so well that the chefs-in-training got at least a dozen referrals for future catering.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Do you have any relatives/friends that would let you use their home as a “venue”?  You could pay to hire catering/cleaners so they don’t have to deal with anything.

Like everyone else, you can’t have “everything” at once.  It’s hot as hell where I live in FL, so summer wedding outside was out for me, as well as several other things.  You have to make do with what you have.

I wouldn’t care too much about the church thing.  Have a friend get ordained and do it anywhere, I assume you can do that in S Africa as well?  I have an event venue but a childhood friend is officiating us.

If you want to remain relaxed, I would say just try and find someone to let you use their home and provide cleaning/catering.   I imagine if you keep it to under 60, it should be doable.  Or order catering and have a few relatives/friends pick it up and have a potluck/buffet style reception.  Very doable.

Any reason you need to have the restaurant “exclusively”?  I’ve seen a lot of weddings more and more at restaurants (everyone just goes out after to eat) and it doesn’t seem odd or bothersome. Do you mean shutting a whole place down?

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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datura:  |Hi Datura! I am also from South Africa. In the same boat as you budget wise. What area are you in? (PM me if you don’t wat to post it here) I also stay in a very expensive part (Wedding central) but have managed to find quite a few budget friendly venues and tips that I am more than willing to share with you.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

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datura:  First of all, big hug for you. I know it sucks to be planning a wedding on a budget in an expensive city, I’m just in the middle of doing it myself.

As for the venue, have you tried enlarging your area of research? I saw a definite decrease of prices in places that were already at a two-three hour drive from our city. Or perhaps you can try to find somebody who has a piece of nice land (but not specializing in weddings) and try talking them into renting it for a day to put a tent and have an outdoor reception? Also, what worked for us was doing lots and lots of research, leaving no stone unturned, talking to literally anybody who could have any valuable information. Thanks to this I found a relatively unknown charming little place at half the price of others in the area.

Secondly, perhaps you could prepare the food yourself and have a buffet? With Fiance we really can’t stand typical wedding reception menus, the quality is usually poor and the prices are sky-high. So what we’re trying to do at the moment is finding a private chef who would cook the reception meal with the ingredients that we will purchase ourselves. This way we’ll be sure about the quality and will only have to pay for the main d’oeuvre.

We’re getting married at the city hall therefore it’s free. We invited only family and close friends to keep the event relaxed and intimate. Decoration, my dress, hair and make-up I’m doing myself, so we’re saving a lot on that as well.

That’s pretty much what I can advise you. Don’t hesitate to PM me if you need any more info.

Be strong, it’s definitely possible to plan a wonderful wedding for next to nothing!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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datura:  We have been looking at venues close to Stellenbosch as we love the Winelands. So far we had a look at Avalon on the Bottelary road. They do not have a website or Facebook, but I can PM you their contact number if you’d like. The charged R360 per head for 2014 that includes venue hire as well as a 3 course meal. Here are two links with photos of the venue: http://www.lindyphotography.co.za/stephanie-thabo-avalon/
I also have a lot of photos that I took when we visited the venue, if interested I can pm them to you.
You can also have a look at De Ouwe Klok in Stellenbosch. I don’t have their specific rates, but I know they are also very budget friendly. http://www.vlottenburg.co.za/

I can also really suggest making contact with Beanstalk Catering and Function hire. The work with quite a few venues and have wonderful packages that includes venue hire, flowers, some decor, chair hire and food starting at R370 per head. https://www.facebook.com/beanstalkfunctions?fref=ts

My research have obviously been focussing on Stellenbosch because that is where we want to get married, but Gerrit and Flo from Beanstalk might be able to give you more information on venues closer to Cape Town.

Have you started looking for a dress yet? If so, what do you have in mind?
When is your wedding date?

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Even though we’re half a world away I feel like we’re in the same exact situation. So I’m no help. I think I’m going to bite the bullet and spend the money, but I don’t recommend that. If keep going the restaurant route if I were you or even a nice bar/lounge. Keep looking!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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datura:  I completely feel for you! I think it is even worse for us living in Wedding Central! I am also envisioning a Babylonstoren wedding but without the huge price tag attached to it. We finally decided on Ou Stal Equestrian estate as our wedding venue. You can find them on Facebook. I think they are charging us just over R400 per head almost all inclusive. 

A friend of us got married at Tokara and they were also reasonably priced: the only catch comes in that you have to use their wines which ups the price quite a bit! 

When I first started thinking of getting married, I also had a look at the In The Vine venue just outside Somerset West. Back then (2013) I think their venue fee was R16000. 

Also have a look at Eureka wedding venue (Durbanville). I saw them at a bridal expo and fell in love with what they had to offer. They are also very willing to work within budget. We ended up not going with them as we really wanted a forest ceremony venue which they don’t offer. 

 

Post # 13
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Worker bee

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datura:  Weddings and all services connected with them are expensive, everyone planning one went through the shock of discovering how much that one day will finally cost. And probably everyone in here has a story or two about how the price of something doubled as soon as the magic W word was mentioned. But what helps me not to get overwhelmed by negative feelings and frustration is remembering the most important thing: I will marry my best friend, lover and companion, with people who love us by our side, we will all eat, drink, dance and the night will be memorable even if I don’t spend thousands on it.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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datura:  I’m sorry OP.  Being from a completely wedding and tourist state in the US, I feel your pain.  🙂  I agree with all the PPs advice about focusing on the actual events–you marrying your fiance with your family and friends as witness–and everything else is icing on the cake. 

 

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