- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2016
Hi, I’m new here! I just recently got engaged (yay!) in April. We’ve always said we wanted to have a simple, elegant and not very expensive, smallish (60 people?) wedding. But the deeper i get into planning, the more I’m starting to think thats just not possible.
My problems are as follows:
1. I live in a very expensive part of the country (in South Africa), and many people travel here for expensive destination weddings, so anywhere used to doing weddings is very very expensive.
2. I thought about a backyard wedding, but I don’t know anyone with a lovely big back garden or convenient countryside property that i could use. We live in a flat and both of our parents have tiny gardens.
3. Every venue I’ve looked at charges a fortune just for an empty room with no decor or crockery etc and makes you use their own caterers or charges a fortune for bringing in outside caterers. Having attended many local weddings, i can tell you that the food at these kinds of places is mediocre at best, despite being expensive. I can’t face paying a fortune for lousy food (we’re both serious foodies)
4. I thought about just hiring a nice restaurant, but all of the options I’ve looked at want to charge about double what it would normally cost per head if we want the venue exclusively, even those places that have a max headcount of around 60.
5. We’re both atheists, so cant get married in a church and use the church hall or anything similar.
6. Simpler places that do intimate, cheaper, weddings have a max headcount of 30 to 40, meaning we would have to leave a lot of people out.
Has anyone else experienced this problem? How did you solve it? I really don’t want to end up spending double my budget. How can i have a wedding thats close to what I want without breaking the bank? Or how do i come to terms with a very downscaled wedding without feeling hugely let down? Just FYI, I’m already planning to DIY everything i can, including my dress.