- 1 year ago
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
Here is my final shape on my big day!
Here is my final shape on my big day!
I did! I mediocrely tried for like 3 months and hit a plateau, then I started intermittent fasting and going to orange theory about 2-3x a week and that took care of my last 15ish pounds! I lost about 25 lbs all together.
I think any lifestyle changes that impact positively on health, irrespective of the trigger for them are probably good, but people shouldn’t feel like they HAVE to lose weight for their wedding.
To share my own story, I had an injury about a year before I met my fiance. Because I was single, I’d been doing as many as 6 yoga classes a week – I had the time and I was bored, basically. After the injury, I just couldn’t do that many classes without aggravating the joint, so I cut down to only one or two a week.
Then, being happy and in a relationship, we went out a lot, drank wine and beer, and of course I had less time to work out even if I’d been able to, or wanted to. Around this time I was finally diagnosed with a B12 deficiency as well, which was making me exhausted – working out felt insurmountably hard.
Essentially, the perfect storm of things was resulting in slow but steady weight gain.
I realised I had to do something (injury or not) when I weighed myself and discovered I was the heaviest I’d ever been. As ridiculous as it sounds, I couldn’t help thinking how unfair it was that my partner, who is by far the loveliest, sweetest man I’ve ever met, didn’t get me at what I felt was my most attractive – that a bunch of dillweeds and jerks got to date me when I felt best about myself! When I felt sexiest and most confident. And the fact that he has always been nothing but supportive, kind and flattering about my appearance when some of them hadn’t been made this even more galling.
By this point, I wanted to lose weight as I was unhappy with how I looked, but I also wanted to be the best version of myself I could be for the love of my life – plus with the treatment for the low B12 I was starting to feel less tired (yay!)
For the past year I’ve been trying to do 3-4 pilates and barre classes a week, but to be honest I didn’t really see any weight loss until I drastically cut down on my food intake. We already eat fairly healthily, with loads of fruits and veggies, no soda, only black coffee except on weekends, and rarely eat dessert, but it took intermittent fasting to actually lose any weight at all, despite going from no exercise to 3-4 days a week.
Diet is by far the biggest factor in my opinion. I would lose weight faster if I was prepared to eat what I do Monday to Friday on weekends as well, but I am of the opinion that the weight loss would not be worth how miserable life would feel if I couldn’t have a latte with brunch on a Saturday, or indulge in a schnitzel pub meal on a Friday night with friends now and then.
Maybe as we approach our wedding I will consider that if I haven’t lost as much weight as I hope to, I can’t say for sure, but for me losing weight is not FOR the wedding, exactly. It’s something I’d wanted to do anyway, and the wedding just serves as a deadline for that pre-existing goal. Plus, as (I think) another poster said, after we get married I want to start trying for a baby, so I want to be as fit and strong as possible, as well as having a bit more wiggle room for weight gain etc when/if that happens.
I think losing weight will make me feel confident and that’s how I’d like to feel on my wedding day when 120 of our closest friends and family are staring at me!
I started getting into shape with my wedding being a significant motivator! However, when I purchased my wedding dress ,before I began focusing on my food intake and workouts, I was sure to order a dress that fit me that day as I did not want to place pressure on myself. ❤️
I would recommend working with a nutrition coach who can set your macros initially based on your activity level and needs, and can watch your progress and make adjustments and suggestions. It was well worth it for me to make that change and learn so much about my nutrition. Now I’m pregnant and eating like a linebacker, but at least I know how to do it right LOL 🤣
I believe that events, especially your own wedding could be the perfect motivation to get into shape and adopt a healthier lifestyle. I don’t think that should be the sole reason why, as obviously having a healthy lifestyle is important, but I do think that what better time to get into it, especially if it’s been difficult in the past. I know for my upcoming wedding I plan to drop quite a lot of weight. It has been something I have struggled to do but I definitely have more motivation now. I just know I don’t want to feel uncomfortable in photos and want to feel and look my best. My hope though is that I maintain the healthy habits long after the wedding.