(Closed) Getting itchy…still WAITING!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I hope it does. I don’t think you should tell him you’re letting him off the hook entirely, even if money is tight. Money shouldn’t dictate something as monumental as marriage. Marriage actually costs very little. You can get a white gold diamond engagement ring for under $100 on Amazon (free shipping, too!) and go to city hall. A plain gold band is also under $100. Or you could get a nicer setting and consider CZ, white sapphire or moissanite.  If you’re really just tired of waiting, you might bring these things up. You can always upgrade later.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I can’t tell you if it’ll be before your anniversary or not, but hang in there! My SO doesn’t even want to get a placeholder, as he sees them as a “waste of money” or even anything really inexpensive. Your SO may or may not feel the same. With all the expenses though, you may have to wait until the end of the year. Just reiterate that you’re not planning on breaking up with him, that you love him and want to be with him, but don’t feel comfortable continuing your living situation without something more permanent. He feels threatened that you’re going to completely leave him, not just leave the house. That’s a lot of stress for him.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I understand you want to encourage him but you probably put too much pressure with the countdown.  you don’t want him to feel like “he has to get me an engagement ring in 6 weeks or I will break up with him.”

you can make plans but sometimes life gets in the way (your dog’s sickness, for example) and the situation has to be reevaluated. 

Post # 9
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@1stRosie:  But do YOU want an emerald cut?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think that ring you posted is lovely! I think with some men, time seems to slip away from them and they don’t realize it until the deadline is approaching. I think you gave him plenty of time to get it together. Moissanite would be a great placeholder, too! Search the threads on here and I’m sure you will be blown away at how gorgeous these babies can be. And, you can tell him you would be happy to upgrade at your 5 year anniversary (or whenever). No one would be the wiser 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@1stRosie:  I think you need to let him do what he wants to do ring and money wise. It may be ok with us to spend less or get a placeholder ring but to guys its not ok. The ring he’s getting you is a symbol of his love and his hard work. My Fiance spent somewhere between 15k and 18k on my ring and I was pretty upset by this. I felt it was a waste of money but to him it was important. He went and picked out a loose diamond and really did his research, he wanted to buy me a diamond that we could pass on to grandchildren. He works SO hard at his job and has accomplished a lot and this ring is a symbol of his hard work and dedication to his family (me). My ring is gorgeous and every time I look at it I’m reminded of how hard he worked to give me something so beautiful. Even though times are changing and women don’t stay home and raise families all of the time some men are really traditional and want to “take care” of their wives whether they need to or not. I can pay all my bills on my own but my Fiance wants to be able to do it for me whether he needs to or not. 

It sounds like your man loves you so enjoy him and your life together, I’m sure he’s doing the best he can! Also, I’m sympathetic on the vet bills. Isn’t it amazing the amount of money we will pay for our furry children?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I stumbled upon this post and now I want an update. Did he propose finally?

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