(Closed) getting married after 20 years

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow, congrats for making that step and all the best!

Post # 4
2069 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

aw i’m not in that situation but i love this. congrats on having yourselves a big ol party to celebrate your love. and for sticking it out, paper or no paper, because you just want to! that makes me happy. congrats on your upcoming wedding : )

Post # 5
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


Post # 6
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes. My husband and I had been together for 17.5 years before we got married last month. The time was right and we couldn’t be happier that we are married but also that we waited until it was.





Post # 7
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


Not my situation personally, but my parents who have been together 25+ years are thinking about getting married sometime in the future. Mom has joked about waiting until all of her kids are married.

Post # 8
9556 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’ve only been together 6, but last year good friends married after 18 years! It was awesome. The homily was great because the pastor kept saying he didn’t have any more advice, other than – keep doing what you’ve been doing!

Post # 10
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SnowBunny420:  We had a truly marvellous day. We had a family ceremony followed by a fabulous lunch then went onto have a huge and convivial evening do attended by about 175 people. Everyone was so delighted for us and I’d not have changed a moment of the day. In fact I can honestly say that not a single, tiny, thing went wrong and the happiness shown to us was just incredible.

Post # 11
2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SnowBunny420:  You sound like my SO’s parents. They did the same and have now been together for a total of 33 years.

Honestly, up until a few months ago when he took me ring shopping out of the blue, I thought SO and I were heading the same way. I wouldn’t have gone anywhere. We’ve been together for 7 years. I love stories like yours; it’s nice instead of “it’s been 3 years and he hasn’t proposed? dump him!”

Post # 12
1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@SnowBunny420:  so glad for you, congrsts! Have not been in your shoes but have known several couples. 

All the couples I have known have waited because the man just wouldnt get married! Some even had kids but their guys still dragged their feet. I felt terrible for them.

Have one older relative who was with her boyfriend for 19 years. He finally married her last year as she was retiring from her job and I think the marriagewas for benefits reasons. 

Anyway, glad that was not the case for you. 

better late than never. best wishes 🙂

Post # 13
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not quite 15 but we got married just after 10 years.  It seemed like the right time for us at this point in our lives and it was a wondeful wedding! My husbands Dad married his girlfriend of 25 years just a few years ago too!

Congratulatons 😉

Post # 14
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR and I are older (over 50 & 60) and we are Encores, having both been thru the heart-break of Divorce… which partially accounts for why we waited… we were together over 6+ Years when we got Engaged, more than 7 by the time we married.

No regrets.

It was the perfect amount of time for use.

Every couple is different… NO RIGHTS OR WRONGS here.

CONGRATULATIONS, on finally finding Mr Right and taking the BIG Step to marriage.

I wish you both many many years / decades of happiness !!


Post # 15
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Congratulations! I have friends who have been together since high school and are now in their early 40s. They just married five years ago because, in his words, it suddenly felt like the right time. Everyone was so over the moon for them, and it was so clear that they were thrilled. 

Post # 16
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SnowBunny420:    My FI and I have been together for 20 years.   We started dating in spring of 1993.  So long ago, that neither of us remember the exact date.  We already knew each other through work, and had both been previously married and had children.  My first marrage lasted 15 years, his lasted 20.


I’m 56, he’s 67.   We’ve been through a lifetime together already… good times and bad.   Most of our family / friends consider us married.   While we have been together for a long time, it will actually be strange to be married again.  At least for me.


He totally caught me off-guard when he proposed in December.  I actually told him that I needed to think about it and would let him know after the holidays.  Like a PP said, the timing seemed right.   We will be married in Oct.  It still seems a little surreal after all this time together.  








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