(Closed) Getting married at 18yrs old to some in the MILITARY! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1642 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My personal opinion is that if you are 18, your partner just recently brought up marriage and your marriage is supposed to occur WITHIN THE NEXT TWO WEEKS, you probably shouldn’t do it. Hell, I don’t decide what I’m doing on weekends without a few days notice, much less a lifelong commitment.

Post # 4
Member
3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I personally think that it is very, very likely that getting married at 18 is a really bad idea.  It usually is.  I know you probably are not going to believe what I have to say and you think you are the exception (everyone thinks their love is the exception), but there is so much that you don’t know.  At 18 you don’t even know what it is that you don’t know, and your brain hasn’t even stopped growing.  Give yourself time to figure out who you really are (you think you know but you don’t).  Occasionally there is a really young couple that manages to make it work, but it is hard and usually involves a lot of struggle.

Post # 5
Member
2269 posts
Buzzing bee

@Soon2beNAVYWIFE:  If you don’t want to get married, don’t get married. It’s quite simple.

And MAKING every OTHER word IN all CAPS makes FOR a VERY difficult POST to READ. 

Post # 6
Member
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

No no no no no.

No.

Don’t do it.

Post # 7
Member
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly, from your post you seem very young and not ready to make a life long commitment to someone.  Please don’t get married just to “help with the long distance”.  IF you are really in love, you will still be in a few years when you are older and wiser.

Post # 8
Member
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you should wait, spend some more time together while being in the same place, and if it still works then, get married. Going from long distance to up close and personal can have negative affects on a relationship, getting married while you’re very young and still discovering yourself can mean you may end up growing in 2 completely and incompatible directions. 

Only you can decide if you’re ready for marriage, but I strongly suggest making sure you can handle large amounts of time together on a daily basis before taking that leap.

Post # 9
Member
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you have to ask randoms on the internet for advice on whether not to marry a guy it usually means you’re not ready.

And your posts will be much easier to read if you please just write normally, it’s very distracting.

Post # 10
Member
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I definitely think you should wait

Post # 11
Member
6825 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You sound very immature and honestly at the age of 18 a lot of people are not ready for marriage.  I would wait.

Post # 12
Member
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

LOL

Post # 13
Member
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Um…don’t do it!

Post # 14
Member
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Anyone else curious why the 21 year old guy all the way across the country would like to get married?

Post # 15
Member
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think MARRIAGE would only HELP the DISTANCE thing – Why? It won’t change how far apart you are from each other.

Post # 16
Member
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@Cornmuffin09:  I am not assuming this is the case in this situation, but in the military your basic allowance for housing (BAH) is increased when you have a dependent (namely, spouse and children).  Also, if deployed, when married, you also recieve Family Separation Allowance (FSA).

The topic ‘Getting married at 18yrs old to some in the MILITARY! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors