Post # 1
Ok, hello everyone!! My boyfriend and I wants to get married.I’m 18 years old & and he’s 21! We have a bit of history together! The THREE problems are he’s in the military , we are to YOUNG, & he’s in Washington,Seattle! We met two summers ago when he was goin to school in the naval base in my area. LONG STORY SHORT thought he had a girlfriend and ENDED that!!! A year later i get a friend request on facebook then a message from him.. It’s kind of the PREFECT LOVE story A LITTLE! LOL We had everything plan and SET for NOVEMBER! He started telling his NAVY FRIENDS and they started telling him he is to young and their other TWO CETNTS! It’s already goin to be DIFFICULT because he is so FAR AWAY and being married but in my opinion our love is just going to be STRONGER because of the DISTANCE. We tallk on the phone every single day, & send each other video messages every other. I’m planning to move down there in a year time. We love each other SO MUCH but I think MARRIAGE would only HELP the DISTANCE thing. What do you guys think? Should we wait? PLEASE I NEED ADVISE(:
Post # 3
My personal opinion is that if you are 18, your partner just recently brought up marriage and your marriage is supposed to occur WITHIN THE NEXT TWO WEEKS, you probably shouldn’t do it. Hell, I don’t decide what I’m doing on weekends without a few days notice, much less a lifelong commitment.
Post # 4
I personally think that it is very, very likely that getting married at 18 is a really bad idea. It usually is. I know you probably are not going to believe what I have to say and you think you are the exception (everyone thinks their love is the exception), but there is so much that you don’t know. At 18 you don’t even know what it is that you don’t know, and your brain hasn’t even stopped growing. Give yourself time to figure out who you really are (you think you know but you don’t). Occasionally there is a really young couple that manages to make it work, but it is hard and usually involves a lot of struggle.
Post # 5
@Soon2beNAVYWIFE: If you don’t want to get married, don’t get married. It’s quite simple.
And MAKING every OTHER word IN all CAPS makes FOR a VERY difficult POST to READ.
Post # 7
Honestly, from your post you seem very young and not ready to make a life long commitment to someone. Please don’t get married just to “help with the long distance”. IF you are really in love, you will still be in a few years when you are older and wiser.
Post # 8
I think you should wait, spend some more time together while being in the same place, and if it still works then, get married. Going from long distance to up close and personal can have negative affects on a relationship, getting married while you’re very young and still discovering yourself can mean you may end up growing in 2 completely and incompatible directions.
Only you can decide if you’re ready for marriage, but I strongly suggest making sure you can handle large amounts of time together on a daily basis before taking that leap.
Post # 9
If you have to ask randoms on the internet for advice on whether not to marry a guy it usually means you’re not ready.
And your posts will be much easier to read if you please just write normally, it’s very distracting.
Post # 10
I definitely think you should wait
Post # 11
You sound very immature and honestly at the age of 18 a lot of people are not ready for marriage. I would wait.
Post # 14
Anyone else curious why the 21 year old guy all the way across the country would like to get married?
Post # 15
I think MARRIAGE would only HELP the DISTANCE thing – Why? It won’t change how far apart you are from each other.
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
@Cornmuffin09: I am not assuming this is the case in this situation, but in the military your basic allowance for housing (BAH) is increased when you have a dependent (namely, spouse and children). Also, if deployed, when married, you also recieve Family Separation Allowance (FSA).