(Closed) Getting Married at 25 & 26

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Is 25 & 26 too young to get married?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee

    I think you are reading way too into it honestly. In general, yes it is generally better to get married older than 25 (according to studies). But plenty of couples make it who get married before and plenty don’t who get married after. 

    A lot of it comes down to maturity, compatability and willingness to work through tough times. A lot changes in your 20’s, but a lot changes throughout your life as well.

    My only suggestion is that if you have to ask if you are too young…you might want to really think hard about whether or not you are ready to get married.

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee

    I got married when I was 25 and my husband was 26. We had been together almost 9 years at that point so we really were confident in our relationship and had finally gotten into a good place career wise and financially. It was the perfect age for us! 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I think it depends if you are with the right person and if your emotionally ready and your level of maturity. I will be 29 when I get married but my best mate was 26 and she was ready and with her SO for six years. They were living together and she has a daughter who her SO Has brought up. It just depends. 

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee

    depends on the what a diffrence it makes to you lifestyle. I have lived with my man for 5 years. Got engeged at 25/26 will be married at 27/28 (shortly after our birthdays). If you already live together then marrige doesnt change much about your life so think about that and the life you two want in the future.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    emeraldbee2:  Do YOU feel ready to get married? It doesn’t matter what the studies say. If you feel ready to get married, then get married!

    When I turned 25, I wanted to get married to the guy I was with at the time – but I’m SO glad that didn’t work out! Shortly after our breakup, I met my now-fiance (I’m 27 now) .. and I could not be happier! It all comes down to how YOU feel about it, not how some study suggests you should feel about it.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Presque Isle

    We were just a tad younger (24 and 25 but turned 25 and 26 at the end of the month/beginning of the following month) and it’s worked fine for us. We’ve lived together for several years before getting married and honestly it’s been business as usual for us. We have new jewelry and our car insurance has gone down, lol. I think it’s all a matter of how you feel about the relationship and its maturity. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

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    emeraldbee2:  really depends on the people getting married. Some people are ready at 25 and some just aren’t. I wasn’t ready at 25, but my best friend and her husband got married at 25/26 and 5 years later they are as strong as ever 🙂 Every couple should be looked at individually, no one matures at exactly the same time.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Your prefrontal cortex is closed or closing, so I’d say you’re fine.  My parents got married at 23, and 45 years later are going strong, it’s really more about how committed you are to the institution of marriage!

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    emeraldbee2:  statistics mean nothing to the individual. I will be married at 23, we have a stable relationship and have lived in a stable household with our two little dogs for 3 years. We love each other and that’s what we count towards our marriage. And maturity and age have little correlation.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee

    We will be married at 25 and 26 but we could have been married 2 years ago, we are more than ready and have been living like a married couple for the last 4 years together. The answer is different for everyone. Some people are very mature and ready to be married by 20, others still aren’t ready at 40! Theres no right or wrong age to be married as long as you both feel ready and know it is right for you. 

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    So much depends on the individuals and relationships. I know two couples who are high school sweethearts and who were obviously just the only people in the world for each other – both couples waited until 25ish to get married, but they could’ve gotten married right out of high school and no one would have blinked an eye. One of my college roommates got married the summer after we graduated, when she was 21 years old, and they have been going strong for eight years.

    Then again, I have known a few people who got married in their late 20s or early 30s who were very sheltered and immature and were not getting ready to get married even then.

    I think 25 is just the rule of thumb because you’re still mentally developing until that age, so waiting to get married until your mid 20s provides a little more insurance that you and your partner will continue growing together instead of apart. (Love is important but I don’t think it’s everything. Changes in your teens and early 20s happen so fast! it’s easy to look up and suddenly realize you’re a whole different person than you were two years prior.)

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    We will be 26 and I feel fully and 100 percent ready- but I think it is about your level of commitment to each other that really matters. I know we will still change and grow over the next few years but I’m confident we’ll do that together. Some people get married at 20 and are ready, others aren’t until they are 40! 

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think your age truly matters as much as the strength of your relationship.  I was 25 and DH was 27 when we got married, and I’ve never questioned our relationship.

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