(Closed) Getting married before an older sibling?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
638 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My sister got married when she was 22 and I was 31 at the time, so yep… It was a little weird and I was kind of worried that she was too young, but they have made it work. They now have 2 beautiful girls. I’ve always been the relationship challenged one in the family, but finally at 37 it’s my turn. 🙂

Post # 4
2237 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m the youngest of 3 girls and the first to get married (the other two aren’t even close). I’m sure my sisters think I’m too young, but at the same time they adore my fi and wouldn’t tell me not to get married. I think the main reason why I’m the first is because my parents had a real messy divorce, but I was too young to even realize what was going on whereas my sisters were affected by it.

Post # 5
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I”m in the middle of five kids, I’m the only girl and the last one to get married.   No one got married in any sort of order: Boy #3 married HS sweetheart first, #1 boy married some chick and divorced before boy #2 got married.  Boy #5 got married and now GIRL (#4) is on the waiting boards.  I don’t know how they all felt, but it was exciting each and every time!  (well except brother #1 but he’s a headcase and I need a book for that!)

Post # 6
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My little brother got married a little less than a year before me (but I wasn’t even engaged yet). He had been engaged to his fiancee (now wife) for 2 years in a long distance relationship, whereas I had a 7 month engagement. I think it is just different for each person. I was a little jealous that he was getting married, but mostly I was just happy for him!

Post # 7
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I have three older siblings and I was the first to get married.  Mr. HC is the middle and he was also the first – so we were very out of order in our families, but based on the role each of has always played in our family dynamics and the amount of time we had been together, it totally made sense!  It might have been a little weird to my older siblings though.

Post # 8
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Im in the middle of my two brothers and the first to get married. My brothers are both nowhere near getting married.

Post # 9
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am the baby of two, older brother 30 and I am 28. I am married and he is not really close to marriage. But I think it was expected for me to get married first seen as Mr. M and I have been together for 7 years and Bro has never brought a girl home!

Post # 10
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

My sister (who is two years younger than I am) got engaged last summer and is currently planning her wedding for July this year. I probably will be engaged soon and we’re planning our wedding for February 2012. So, even though it’s over lapping a bit, my younger sister will be married first. I don’t think it’s that weird. I hadn’t really thought about it until now.

Post # 11
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

my sister is 22 months younger than me, and she got married before me.  it didn’t bother me, though, i was happy for her and honored to be her MOH!  🙂

Post # 12
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m the middle and the first to get married. I don’t think my older brother cares and no one has really made any comments, I think they all knew this was going to happen.

Post # 13
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am the youngest of two children. My brother is 28, and he is not getting married any time soon. I actually asked him one time how he felt about it because I told him that if the roles were reversed then I would be upset. He told me he has no problem with it at all, and he didn’t even think about it.

Post # 14
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m 22 and will be just shy of 23 when I get married.  When I get married my brother will be 28.  We were also very close to getting married first before his brother (who is 26, his wife is 23 – my fiance is about a month and a half older than me) but they chose a much shorter relationship before engagement then a much shorter engagement. I don’t think my brother cares.  I think his brother would have secretly been upset if we had gotten married before he found someone though.  

Post # 15
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

there is no real hard and fast rule about who gets married in what order, or who has children in what order. My sister is 8.5 years older than me & though she was married before I was, I had a kid before her (& before she was married).


Life happens.

Post # 16
4311 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My brother got married before me.  He is two years younger than me, I wasn’t even engaged at the time.  It was not a big deal at all.

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