(Closed) Getting married before an older sibling?

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 92
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am the middle child and I’m getting married before my older sister that has been dating her bf longer thand fi and I have been, I’m sure its hard for her but she has been a  wonderful Maid/Matron of Honor and super supportive!

Post # 93
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822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’m the oldest.  my younger brother got married this July and i will be getting married next May.  It didn’t bother me and my parents didn’t make a big deal about it.  My brother and his wife have been dating since grad school even before I met my bf.  They have been engaged longer and had to already push their wedding out a year because brother was laid off and his wife was just finishing up law school and the firm pushed her start start up a few months.

 

Post # 94
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775 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My sister will be 36 and my brother will be 27 before I get married. I’ll be 24 and my Fiance will be 26. My brother will never get married. My sister and I have not spoken in a year and probably never will. I’m loving the fact that I’m getting married before her! 

Post # 95
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1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My sister is 3 years younger than me and got married 2.5 years ago (I’ve never been married).  She was dating her BF since they were both 17 and they got engaged when they were almost 24, married at 24. 

I really had no problem with it, I didn’t have a BF at the time and they had been dating for so long.

Post # 96
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904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m the oldest and getting married first. None of my other siblings are close, so my side is all fine. 

My Future Sister-In-Law is two years older than us. She and her FH had been dating a few years more than we had. My FH gave her boyfriend a heads up that he was going to pop the question in about a month if being “first” was important to them. Well, he didn’t do anything about it and we ended up engaged first. When we announced our engagement I felt bad because I could tell she was disappointed.

They ended up getting engaged four days after us, after a “spontaneous” trip, which seemed a little forced. I won’t lie, I felt like our thunder was stolen but you can’t control what other people do. We’re getting married a couple of months before them, which I also think they didn’t want but it’s what worked best for us. 

So it goes. 

Post # 97
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1991 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am the youngest of 3, and the first to get married.  My sister is the middle, my brother is the oldest.  My sister has actually told me that I shouldn’t be getting married so young (I’ll be 23 by my wedding) and that its rude of me to spend my parents’ money on a wedding (they offered and haven’t complained once).  Its caused some problems.

Post # 98
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My fiance is the youngest of two.  His older sister is two years older, was engaged at one point, but called it off.  

I am the youngest of two.  My brother is ten years older than myself and he isn’t married.  I guess sometimes that’s really weird to me.  

xo

Post # 99
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m getting married after my sister, and I’m not particularly concerned. It is a little frustrating because my mother is a bit nutty because of several issues that happened with my sister’s wedding, and my sister tries to compare the two events too much. Its a totally separate event, and while the drama is annoying I’m happy that she got married and never really considered caring that she was first.

My FH’s cousin’s gf on the other hand, seems very upset that I’m first of his generation. She will barely hold a decent conversation with me and we’ve overheard her saying that “she’ll LET US go first” 

Post # 100
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I got married before my brother (he’s engaged) and he’s 46 this year. I was technically 23 when I got married, though my birthday was 2 weeks later. 

Post # 101
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My sister got married before me (she was 20 at the time, I was 4)

My brother is 27 and engaged and I am now 21 and engaged. My brother and his fiance have three kids, a house, a cat and a dog, so a lot of responsibility. He also has health issues that limits his ability to work, so I think I will get married before him , simply because he can’t spend money on a wedding for a while. 

Post # 102
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899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My brother is 17 years older than I am, and I am getting married first, even though he has been with his girlfriend for just shy of 20 years. Yeah…

Post # 103
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5091 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am the oldest and will get married first.  My brother isn’t anywhere close to getting married.

Fiance is the middle child of three, and though his older brother was the first to get married, they eloped in Mexico and thus skipped the big wedding, and he also got divorced about a year and a half later.  His ex-wife never made any effort to be a part of the family (I never even met the woman, even though I see Future Brother-In-Law and the rest of FI’s family all the time).  For all those reasons, it’s kind of like Fiance is getting married before him.  It’s okay, though, since Fiance just has his life much more together than Future Brother-In-Law.  Fiance knows what he wants and has always known.  Future Brother-In-Law… not so much.  It’s kind of weird for us to think that in a few years, when we start having kids, our children will actually be older than FBIL’s, even though he’s five years older.  Other than that, though, there’s no problems with us getting married.

Future Sister-In-Law (five years younger than FI) is nowhere near getting married.

Post # 104
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1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m the middle of 3. My older sister is sooo not the kind of person who cares about these things, and she was overjoyed when I got engaged. On the other hand, Fiance is the youngest of two and I never really thought about if she was upset or not–I figured no because Fiance and I have been together so long and she was single, but last time I saw her she gave me this weird speech about how she wasn’t upset that her younger sibling was getting married first, a speech that made it really seem like the opposite.

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