(Closed) Getting married before the baby?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Should we get married before the baby comes?


    I wouldn't, but you can.

    Heck no!

  • Post # 31
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    If it makes you and your fiance happier to get married before the baby arrives, go for it!  I just went through this.  We got engaged last September and were planning an October ’15 wedding.  Then in January I found out I was pregnant.  With our original wedding date, we would have been getting married about 3 weeks after the baby is born.  That was not going to happen!  Lol.  So we had to decide whether to move it up or push it back.  We decided to move it up.  We talked about it a lot and it was important to us that we were married before the baby was born.  No one said a thing to us.  If they thought something negative, they didn’t share it with us. 

    We had a small, intimate wedding and it was perfect.  I got a maternity wedding dress and I loved it…. it was so comfortable but still beautiful.  Do I wish I could have had a few drinks at my wedding to celebrate? Yeah.  But honestly, the day went by so fast I hardly noticed.  And I did have a sip of champagne anyway.  Planning was a bit stressful because I was extra hormonal and dealing with pregnancy stuff at the same time but I just had to accept all the help that was offered; whereas I would normally want to do everything myself.  The only issue was that I was exhausted by the end of the night but it was fine in the end.  And now that it’s over I feel like I can focus on preparing for the baby. 

    I’m happy with the way we handled it and if you think it’s the right thing for y’all, you will be too.  Best of luck and congrats!!

    Post # 32
    2639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Good friends of ours got pregnant before he was able to propose. They had a small civil ceremony this year, and will have the wedding a year after the baby’s due date (this September). Everything is pretty much planned at this point.

    Post # 33
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My cousin was about 7mo pregnant when they got married at city hall.  Her son was born in January and the following August they had a big reception/party for everyone.  It was great to be able to visit, see them AND the baby.  She didn’t want to deal with planning for a baby and planning a wedding, but did want to be married so they could sort out insurance for the baby, etc, before he was born.  I’d encourage anyone to do the same.  Their reception was a backyard bbq, but you could do a big formal affair if that’s your thing.  

    Post # 34
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I hated the last few months.  I was in pain and tired constantly!  I would do it if it could be arranged before 7 months maybe?  And keep it small/simple.  I don’t think it’s a big deal, especially since you were already engaged.  Then nobody can say you’re only getting married because of baby.

    Post # 35
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Congratulations on the baby! And I applaud you for wanting to get married before the baby comes. I think it’s a good thing to do. At the least, you could go to the courthouse and legally be married before the baby, then have a church wedding and reception after, or just a reception after if you’re not religious.

    If you can handle planning a wedding while pregnant, absolutely go for it! If anyone gossips or says anything about you being pregnant on the day of your nuptials — they are someone to ignore. It is so awesome that you want to be married before baby comes! That’s what’s important — focus on doing what you know in your heart to be right. 🙂


    Post # 36
    2758 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    First of all, congratulations!

    Second, if I were in your shoes, I’d do a courthouse elopment ASAP followed by a dinner somewhere fancy. I wouldn’t want to be bothered with juggling logistics and family drama while pregnant. But do what feels right to you both! 

    Post # 37
    3 posts
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    KaylaFromAR:  I will be 36 weeks along when I get married in less than two weeks! Not a single person has spoken ill of our decision. Both of our families are incredibly supportive and know how important it is to us to welcome our baby into the world as a married couple. The only person to make a “shotgun” wedding reference is myself quite frankly LOL. I wouldn’t concern myself with what other people think. You and your Fiance need to do what’s best for you and your child. 

    Congrats and I wish you all the best! 

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