(Closed) Getting married during medical school?

posted 6 years ago in College
Post # 3
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Busy bee

My friend got married married between MS2 and MS3.  It is doable because the second year of school is probably when you may have more free time to do some planning, although some may say 4th year is by far the easiest. I don’t supposed you would want to wait until after 4th year and right before the start of residency? Whether or not you will have time to study for Step 1, I guess would depend on how well you study and if you think you would be too distracted by the whole wedding process.  You might not have much time off however.  Remember that 3rd year usually start in July and not August. 

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I have 3 friends in their second year of medical school at this moment, and I asked them what they thought…they all said that they don’t think there is time to take Step I exam, get married (in another state), and have a little time off after. You’d have time to take Step I and do a wedding, but not the time off, most likely.

 Additionally, maybe you could spread out the planning, but from what I’ve heard you have less time in 2nd year than you do in 1st. One of my friends’ friends got married summer after 1st year and it worked beautifully for them…it’s unfortunate that that won’t work out for you. 🙁

@Westitude:  “It is doable because the second year of school is probably when you may have more free time to do some planning…”

I was told that 2nd year is by far the hardest year because you’re learning the rest of the basic sciences while trying to study for Step I. There’s not more free time in 2nd year compared to first, according to my friends who are going through it right now.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance is in med school!! We are getting married between years 3 and 4. DO NOT GET MARRIED BETWEEN 2 and 3!!! Step 1 is the summer after year 2. It is basically the worst period of your medical school years. If you think first year is hard, take it multiply that by 100 and you get year two of med school.

I could not imagine the added stress of planning a wedding to this past summer. I don’t think we would’ve made it. You usually get more time off during 3rd year, so you will not have to wait until the summer. One of my Fiance friend’s got married during a 2 week off block this month. We decided to get married on June 22, 2012, because I am a school teacher. If you need to ask any questions or need to vent, I am here for you!! Med school is very intense.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

@goodasitgets:  I don’t know, I sort of remember the 1st year being harder than the 2nd but I guess everyone is different. In the second year I think you get more into the flow of things but maybe that is just my personal experience.  I definitely remember having a much better time in second year.  Perhaps I had subconsciously blocked out the pain.  Step 1 is an issue but like I said I don’t think it is impossible to have a wedding. Some of my friends scheduled the test on the early side then they had the rest of the summer (well until July that is) free to do other things. My friend who got married between 2nd and 3rd year did all her planning during 2nd year and she also got married in another state. 

The time between 3rd and 4th year maybe ok. That if you are able to somewhat arrange your own schedule. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for a friend the summer between 3rd and 4th year. So what I did was arrange my schedule so that I have electives/vacation around the time of the wedding. BUT I do have to say that 3rd year was kind of a stressful time for me. I’m not sure I personally would have beed able to plan a wedding. But if you are good with time management then go for it.  Just as an aside, 4th year was an awesome time. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

@Westitude:  I haven’t been through it, so I don’t know for sure, but I asked and that’s what I heard. I think it depends a lot on how effectively you study/manage your time, how stressed out you get, and how you manage your stress levels in general. It’s possible that my friends are poor at doing that or that you’re better at doing that. No idea.

I just know for that most of what I get when I talk to them is along these lines: “I am so stressed! There’s so much to do and so little time! This is crazy, I can’t believe we have to take boards at the end of the year, I’m already stressing!” So when I asked them about the wedding planning thing, they all said no. N=3 is admittedly a really small sample size, though.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

One of my best friends just got married in August. She and her now husband were in between their third and fourth years in medical school, I think. She timed it so that they would be married right after boards and get back from their honeymoon in time for their visiting rotations. Worked out perfectly for them! She’s a meticulous planner, so I’m sure she chose to do it then for a reason.

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