- 5 years ago
This post is regarding my wedding (suppose to happen in next 6 months) and the drama that is expected along. Keep in mind, it’s a traditional indian wedding and things are a little different here even today compares to the west. Thanks to anyone offering advice.
We have been living together for almost 4 years now and have been in relation for almost 7 – 8 years. We like each other and each other’s company and are planning to get married this year. She completed her studies last year and have been getting some corporate work experience since then. I work and have my own small business for both for us.
She is good looking, cute and all my friend like (love) her. We hangout a lot with my school/hometown friends. Overall, in relationships… it’s a problem most of the time that your spouse doesn’t go well with your friends (you know the boyssss)… but it’s NOT the case in this one.
I am around 24 (yes, i know.. but ready to get married). Dropped out of college’s first year and start working early. Have been working for almost 7 – 8 years now and built my own small thing. Pretty stable when it comes to work.
Her father and grandfather are doctors and are pretty reputated in small town of theirs. Although, they are all fine with me and my work and should all be Ok on their end.
Grandfather’s not alive and My father and mother are NOT fine with me getting married here. Why the hell, I don’t know. I haven’t officially invited or asked them (although, my planning is to get married by the end of this year), but they seems to be pretty (at least my mother) against this decision back around 4 years ago when i told them about my relationship.
Ok, so the whole drama begin around 6 years ago… the movement my family found out that i am in a relationship. I use to be in almost college (that first year) that time and was living in my hometown only. My mother and brother (#1 described below) have been pretty against this relationship from the movement they found out about it. They tried to break me down by either harassing me or calling her home (grandmother, long gone) and asking her to break up (now, incase you don’t know… it’s still a pretty big deal for girls family to find out about a girl’s relationship in India). (https://www.google.co.in/search?q=honor+color&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&gws_rd=cr&ei=lQKcVdnYIoeomgXziomgDQ#q=honor+killing) But, she’s not from that family background (Doctors, eh — pretty educated) and was able to take matters in control.
After that I moved to the capital here (New Delhi) and a year later she moved here for her graduation and we have been living together for that time now.
Brother # 1:
So, this was the idiot that called here home about 6 years ago and spoke with her grandmother and everything… For no freaking reason. Not to mention the fact that I finances his wedding like 7 years ago. Helped him move out and helped him with rent and everything for almost a year even after he moved out… just because of brotherhood. His wife is neutral and doesn’t show and any possible or negative signs about my relation. She doesn’t show any interest in it whatsoever… and I kind of don’t like that part… keeping in mind I have been helping (them both) in almost all and every phase of their life.
Brother #2 (The Snake):
Ok, so, this idiot kind of showed me all over that he’s with me and wants me to be happy above everything (and I did believed it for some time too). So, this idiot back in the day was buying a house and came to me asking for a small loan and in return offered to help whenever I would need in near future.
The problem started when I asked back for my money like 6 months ago… (Not to mention the fact that he kept the money for almost 3 years). I asked him to give me back the money and also some additional money that he promised, but damn, he only returned like 80% of what he owned me and even that over a period of 6 months.
His wife: Back around 8 months ago I had an argument with his wife. I took it lightly (just like the boys take every other argument). So, her father expired about 3 months ago and my brother called me up for the funeral… I was there and man her attitude… she didn’t even greeted me… Would someone really do that, like I was there for her father and not for my own favor or something?
Not to mention the fact that I planned this idiot’s whole’ wedding back around 3 years ago and picked up his friends from the airport and everything else he could have possibly imagined (and he knows that too).
I have quiet some good friends who will be there for me. But, I don’t really expect it all to be done based on friendly only. I guess her (grooms) family members and relatives do need to see my family and existence as well.
Final Problem in one paragraph:
I am about to get married and have been supporting my family for all this time. But now that it’s my time… no one’s coming forward. I feel like an idiot helping everyone around all this time. I am fine with my family not being there… but I guess it’s her family that need my family these as for so called “SOCIETY”.