Post # 1
Hello all! We are getting married many states away, in our prior home state, and would like for our guests to mail gifts to our home if they can so we do not have to mail them back before we head back home from our wedding. How do you think this should be approached? I was thinking of adding a little blurb on our knot wedding website to request, if possible, to do this. Is this a bad thing to do? I mean, if worse comes to worse my fiance’s parents can take some back in their vehicle, they are driving and only live about 8 hrs from where we live but of course their space is limited.
Any suggestions? Thank you bees! 😉
Post # 3
I would spread it by word of mouth for sure. If you have a section for registries on your website, you could mention it there too.
Post # 4
I would mention it on the website for sure!
Or what a friend of mine did was not have a registry (she put a registry link on the knot but didn’t actually sign up for one at that place) this way people know to get her Gift Cards to those stores – she is sneaky! LOL
Post # 5
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I wish I could add it to the registry section but you can’t. It only allows for links to the registries. Maybe the Knot can fix this in the future =:)
Post # 6
I added a little blurb to the registry section of our wedding website:
Thank you to everyone for being a part of our special day! We appreciate your thoughts, prayers and well wishes, and especially are thankful for those who, like us, will travel from far away to celebrate with us personally. Thank you!!! For your convenience and ours, please take note of our new address:
Mr. & Mrs. Our new names
123 Drury Lane
I think people got the idea – we had a HUGE pile of cards in the card box and only maybe 10-15 actual presents the day-of. Several of the gifts we were able to return to the store for credit, and are planning to repurchase here at home (just returned yesterday from our honeymoon!). PLUS we can use BBB’s 20% coupons on everything!
Post # 7
Add it to your website for sure. Also let key people know your wishes (parents, bridal party, close friends) because guest are likely to ask them for gift advice anyway.
Post # 8
We had this same issue. Well, the problem is you aren’t supposed to give ANY instructions on the gift buying, not even to say you don’t want them. So what we did was we registered at 3 different places and set the ‘ship-to’ address as my parents house (since we can’t get packages, whole different issue). And we just spread the word that we were leaving our wedding immediately for the honeymoon and hoped people would put 2 and 2 together.
It didn’t really work, tons of people brought gifts the day-of. I was actually shocked! But I dont’ regret approaching it the way we did b/c people should feel nothing but good about buying us gifts and not like they inconvenienced us.
The only thing I would consider doing if I were you (which I was!) is spreading word through your Mom or someone like that. But still, that’s even kind of pushing it since you really aren’t supposed to give any guidance on gifts.
Post # 9
We got married in Michigan, but live in California. We just put a little card in with our invitations that said, “We will be making our home at ADDRESS.” We hoped people would get the hint, but they didn’t really. We got a LOT of gifts, but there’s a silver lining!
We returned them all to Bed Bath and Beyond (where we registered) and they put all the gifts back on our registry… BBB has a great little program after your wedding–you sign up for a date where you can go complete your registry for 20% off! So we were able to get 20% more stuff and didn’t have to ship anything at all. See if where you’re registering has something similar! We thought it would be a huge pain, but it really wasn’t. As long as you’ve got someone who can return all your gifts for you, you’re golden. It took my mom maybe an hour.
Post # 10
Shouldn’t your guests know you don’t live in the same state as the wedding? We’ve just gone with common sense on our registry. We live in CA (which all of our guests know, and if they don’t, they’ve since realized it, as it is the address they’re mailing their RSVPs to!) and our wedding is in New Husband. We’ve already received some registry gifts, at home in CA, and have just assumed that our guests are bright enough not to bring physical gifts to the wedding, just cards.
I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Presumbably anyone you’ve invited to your wedding knows you live in FL.
(That said, we’re having a friend stay in our house while we are back east, partly to care for our pets, partly to be available for deliveries – as I’m certain people will go online to buy registry gifts the day before the wedding and they’re going to be delivered while we’re gone. So you may want to consider something like that.)
Post # 11
We put it on our website and had my mom spread the word (we live in Boston, are getting married in San Diego)
Post # 12
@VagabondGurl: We’re getting married in New Husband, too 🙂 We have someone coming by every couple days to check on our kitties, feed, litter and put packages in.
I do assume that people know we live out of state. There may be some that don’t, but they certainly should by now. ….They should realize even if they don’t considering who they are returning their RSVP’s to.. good point! But, just to be sure, I added the little blurb another bee posted above, not on our registry page because it doesn’t allow for free text, but to the additional information page. In the end, it will be what it will be and we will return gifts and buy back home if necessary, have his parents drive them back to their home in SC and we will pick them up next time we visited, etc. So it’s not a huge deal if some give gifts @ the wedding, just not all!