(Closed) Getting married far away from home; how to request guests to mail gifts?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would spread it by word of mouth for sure.  If you have a section for registries on your website, you could mention it there too.

Post # 4
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would mention it on the website for sure!

Or what a friend of mine did was not have a registry (she put a registry link on the knot but didn’t actually sign up for one at that place) this way people know to get her Gift Cards to those stores – she is sneaky! LOL

Post # 6
3 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

I added a little blurb to the registry section of our wedding website:


Thank you to everyone for being a part of our special day! We appreciate your thoughts, prayers and well wishes, and especially are thankful for those who, like us, will travel from far away to celebrate with us personally. Thank you!!! For your convenience and ours, please take note of our new address:

Mr. & Mrs. Our new names

123 Drury Lane

Anytown USA


I think people got the idea – we had a HUGE pile of cards in the card box and only maybe 10-15 actual presents the day-of.  Several of the gifts we were able to return to the store for credit, and are planning to repurchase here at home (just returned yesterday from our honeymoon!).  PLUS we can use BBB’s 20% coupons on everything!

Post # 7
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Add it to your website for sure. Also let key people know your wishes (parents, bridal party, close friends) because guest are likely to ask them for gift advice anyway.

Post # 8
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had this same issue. Well, the problem is you aren’t supposed to give ANY instructions on the gift buying, not even to say you don’t want them. So what we did was we registered at 3 different places and set the ‘ship-to’ address as my parents house (since we can’t get packages, whole different issue). And we just spread the word that we were leaving our wedding immediately for the honeymoon and hoped people would put 2 and 2 together.

It didn’t really work, tons of people brought gifts the day-of. I was actually shocked! But I dont’ regret approaching it the way we did b/c people should feel nothing but good about buying us gifts and not like they inconvenienced us.

The only thing I would consider doing if I were you (which I was!) is spreading word through your Mom or someone like that. But still, that’s even kind of pushing it since you really aren’t supposed to give any guidance on gifts.

Post # 9
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

We got married in Michigan, but live in California. We just put a little card in with our invitations that said, “We will be making our home at ADDRESS.” We hoped people would get the hint, but they didn’t really. We got a LOT of gifts, but there’s a silver lining!

We returned them all to Bed Bath and Beyond (where we registered) and they put all the gifts back on our registry… BBB has a great little program after your wedding–you sign up for a date where you can go complete your registry for 20% off! So we were able to get 20% more stuff and didn’t have to ship anything at all. See if where you’re registering has something similar! We thought it would be a huge pain, but it really wasn’t. As long as you’ve got someone who can return all your gifts for you, you’re golden. It took my mom maybe an hour.

Post # 10
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Shouldn’t your guests know you don’t live in the same state as the wedding?  We’ve just gone with common sense on our registry.  We live in CA (which all of our guests know, and if they don’t, they’ve since realized it, as it is the address they’re mailing their RSVPs to!) and our wedding is in New Husband.  We’ve already received some registry gifts, at home in CA, and have just assumed that our guests are bright enough not to bring physical gifts to the wedding, just cards.

I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  Presumbably anyone you’ve invited to your wedding knows you live in FL.

(That said, we’re having a friend stay in our house while we are back east, partly to care for our pets, partly to be available for deliveries – as I’m certain people will go online to buy registry gifts the day before the wedding and they’re going to be delivered while we’re gone.  So you may want to consider something like that.)

Post # 11
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We put it on our website and had my mom spread the word (we live in Boston, are getting married in San Diego)

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