Post # 1
Hi! I am literally getting married in 5 days!!! I cant dance. It is SO bad. I cant seem to move my hips right and my whole body stiffens and I am literally standing like a pole the whole time, doing punches with my hips or doing the sway and snap thing while I am super stiff. I absolutely cant seem to move my hips without people laughing! I have no clue what to do with my arms, so I just snap, it is awful to say the least lol!!
I can slow dance fine, but its the upbeat songs I cant dance to. Literally every time I try to dance I get laughed at and asked what I am doing so I avoid it at all costs. And if I get really drink, people still wonder why I am doing “hilarious movements”.
I only have 5 days! I hope no one drags me to the dance floor and I know that they will! and the photog. will be taking photos the whole time…..
Any suggestions? Its the only part of the wedding I am seriously nervous about!
Post # 2
Make sure you are too busy – either talking to people, or eating – to dance.
No one can make you dance – it’s YOUR wedding.
Post # 3
Dancing is just about having fun! My husband and I can’t dance either but we had a great time dancing at our wedding. We basically just decided to accept our lack of ability to dance and not care about how we looked. I look ridiculous in so many of our pictures from the dancing portion of the reception but I also look like I’m having a blast so they are great!
Remember the people at your wedding are your family and friends – not the judges from So You Think You Can Dance. They don’t care if you can’t dance.
I guess if you are really worried, you could practice in front of a mirror but I really think the best solution is to let yourself have fun with it and not care what you look like.
Post # 4
I am no expert but I have been told I dance well. I think when people who can’t dance think of dancing they worry about their arms and hands a lot. Dont worry about your arms/hands. To start… dance with your legs (specifically your quads). To practice, put on same base-y music and make wide leg movements to either side and the front to back with your legs. Powerful movements. Exaggerate it at first. After you get the hang of that, start thinking of accenting your hips along with your leg movements. Once your hips and legs start working in unison, raise your hands a bit in the air and they should start grooving along with the rest of your body. If that doesn’t happen naturally… think of floating your hands side to side while snapping your fingers to the beat. Good luck Bee ❤.
Of course you don’t have to dance if you don’t want to but if you do…to drive it home… you think it’s supposed to be in your hips but it’s NOT… it’s in your quads… the quads move, the hips follow.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
If we had kept our original venue my plan was to have a slow first dance with Fiance and thats it. I’ve never tried to dance, have no desire to learn and don’t feel its that important to stress over for a few hours in one day. No one who cares about me and actually knows me would attempt to pull me on the dance floor. They know better. 😉 I mean you can go with the have fun with it and don’t worry about what other people think option but it only works if you honestly believe you won’t be thinking about how silly you may look or that a bunch of people are watching you. Easier said than done for some. Good luck!
Post # 6
oh, I’m so grateful that the one person who tried to film our first dance accidentally erased the file… we were awful.
As for normal dancing, just figure out where the beat is and move in time to that. It honestly doesn’t matter WHAT you do so much as WHEN (hence why the first dance was so bad… I love my DH, but dancing is not his strength, and he stopped after about 30 seconds and said ‘count me in!’ so I did… but then he stopped again… just imagine this, while laughing to the song).
Post # 7
Moving your hips while dancing is really just about shifting your weight, not throwing your hips around if that makes sense. So if you want to practice, just rest your weight on one foot/leg. Then shift your weight to do the same on the other foot. Rinse and repeat. You can do it in front of a mirror, but just start without that. Then you can do move movements past that, but that’s the essence of it. Watch a few beginner YouTube lessons to get a couple of foot movements and don’t worry about your arms. Just hold hands or embrace, something like that. That should be simple enough to make you feel more comfy if you want to get up and dance, but simple enough to pick up quickly. But really, it’s just about having fun so don’t worry about it and you just do you )
Post # 8
DH and I sucked at dancing on our wedding night. I have seen the videos (taken with cellphone) and we look soo pathetic xD However, we had such a blast dancing that I don’t even care if people made fun of us. At the moment, we were 100% into it, and now we share laught whenever we thing about that moment.
Don’t worry too much about what your guests will think (they’ll probably just be thinking “they look so cute togehter”, anyway). Have fun and enjoy your weddins 🙂