(Closed) Getting married in college!?

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

ohnotali:  We’ll be getting married while in college too, at 20. Glad I am not the only one!

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Your situation sounds similar to what mine was. I married someone with a 10-year age gap while I was in school and working part time. It’s doable if you keep things simple. ๐Ÿ™‚ I remember wedding planning being mostly low-stress besides dealing with family drama. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

August is definitely smart! I’m a full-time PhD student while Fiance is working (and we are very long distance on top of that, chose to go to an international school). 

My advice is get as much done as possible during breaks, like scheduling to meet with vendors, picking out things you both like. That way, you can focus on school 100% during term time, and all you really have to do is write check to vendors you guys have already picked. You can handle the small detail stuff (DIY, etc.) in those summer months leading up to the wedding. 

We just got engaged this past summer, and before I came back, we picked the venue, photographer, videographer, my dress, invitation design and printer, and a few other things. Once we have the date confirmed with the church we will write checks out for deposits. This winter break we are cake tasting, meeting with the venue coordinator, hiring the Day of Coordinator, etc. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Cherry Orchard

starfish0116:  Yes! This is exactly what I was thinking. Once you graduate, your job takes the place of school in your equation.

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I work full-time, take post baccalaureate classes (prerequisites for grad school), and support myself. Fiance and I are currently planning our wedding. It’s a lot of work, but I manage my time well. We’re also doing a long engagement. We can take our time planning, which is less stressful. We plan to have the wedding after I finish applying to grad programs, but before I start one (*fingers crossed*).

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Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017 - Southern Highlands

My FH and I are both in university now and will have one year left after we get married (in Jan 2017 – summer in Aus). I find wedding planning a bit distracting from my studies, but not stressful so far. We have a long time to plan, and I enjoy planning and also have lots of help from my Maid/Matron of Honor. Both of us also work (so we can save up) so our lives do get a bit busy, but we’ll have all of december with no uni before our wedding so we can tie up all the loose ends without worrying about grades. Life is always going to have stressors, so best to learn how to manage everything early on in life anyway ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

Start planning your wedding as soon as you can. I can honestly say that I so far have not been stressed, just tackle one thing at a time. I’ve been very laid back and my wedding is next sept. So who knows if I will stress our more the closer it gets, but I have prettt much everything done. I took my time and I am not stressed. Maybe your fi will just have to take a bit more of a lead in wedding planning while you concentrate on hw. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I did! I think wedding planning is really stressful for the sort of people who want everything to be perfect, but I was pretty chill and “eh, close enough” about the details. The only difficult part of wedding planning is dealing with guest BS… hotel blocking, RSVPs, and the seating chart. I think I spent more time on the seating chart than anything else. 

One thing I need to share with you: I lost my financial aid and Darling Husband didn’t make enough extra money to help me pay for college after we married. So do look into how it will affect the rest of your educational career.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I’m joining this club too! I’m 25 and studying medicine. I’m not working because I just can’t balance it with the course load so Fi is looking after the both of us for a few years.

I think the trick with the wedding planning is go for something that requires minimal input and use your holidays to get things done. I’m also offloading all the RSVP stuff onto Fi because I’ll be doing exams when they’re rolling in next year. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We got engaged towards the end of my undergrad. I’m currently doing my Masters degree while working full-time and planning the wedding. Would not recommend that trifecta ๐Ÿ˜‰ I also have a number of volunteer commitments so free time is precious to say the least. When we got engaged, I wasn’t planning on doing grad school – however I applied to a program on a whim a few months into working full-time and was offered a full scholarship so couldn’t pass that up! 

In terms of making it work… You just have to do it, haha. Maybe the apartment’s messier than usual, but that’s life. Hopefully your partner will step up and take on a bit more to balance things out if it’s needed. I do my best to plan things out so when I know school’s going to be super intense I don’t have a whack of wedding appointments scheduled. I work ahead on my schoolwork wherever possible, and I do school/wedding/volunteer stuff on lunch breaks at my job. My planner is my best friend, and I literally schedule fun time for mysef. If I plan things out well in advance with friends then I know if I study through a Saturday I’ll be able to have a guilt-free evening out and etc. 

Time management really is the biggest thing. Assuming you’re sleeping 8 hours a night (I never do, haha) that leaves you with 112 hours in a week. Subtract the hours you’re in class and go from there! I find if I look at it that way, it’s not so difficult to balance. 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I didn’t get married in college, I got married the week after graduation, so while I can’t speak on the being married in college aspect of your situation, I certainly can on the planning in college. It’s stressful! I didn’t find wedding planning to be particularly stressful, but the combination of that and studying was. Darling Husband was a tremendous help with all of our DIYs, but we still had to sacrifice a lot of social time in order to get the wedding planned. I always made schoolwork a priority- I had always been a procrastinator but the two semesters we planned the wedding, I became the person who did everything the minute it was assigned just to make sure I could count on wedding time. 

All in all though, it is totally doable. Just make sure you don’t get too bogged down in school and planning- make sure you set aside time as a couple to focus on each other!!! Wedding planning, even with a ton of DIYs, doesn’t have to be stressful itself!

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am still in school full time. We got married, had our little boy, have another on the way, and I work 2 jobs. It’s hard but it’s totally worth it for our family. I will be graduating in December when our first turns 1, and our second will be born in February. I am looking forward to beinfo done with school, but I am so glad we already got married. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We are getting married about a month and a half after graduating. We wanted to wait so that we could save more money and have plenty of time for our honeymoon. We are both working on our bachelor’s and working. We want marriage to be the start of a new adventure and we want it to be more exciting than just going back to school the next fall. We also want to get another puppy after we get married and we can’t do that if we are still busy with school.

As far as planning goes I’ve always been a planner and I am very type A so it’s been a breeze so far. I’ve been having fun doing it and it hasn’t been an issue with school. But next semester I’m taking 5 science classes sooo we will see how that goes. I just want to be done with school already!

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